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I’m sure you all heard it all before about confused teenage girls and everything.

But I felt the need to rant to hopefully people who would understand. Here I go:

I’m 16 years old in a couple of days. And ever since I was 13 I thought I was bi sexual. At the time I thought “oh hey, I’m only 13 I’m just growing up” and i tried to talk to my mom about these feelings and she was highly against them, i only live with my mom because my dad died the year before. So when i tried to tell her my feelings. She said she doesnt belive in bi sexuality, im either a lesbian or straight, and she doesnt like lesbians at all. So I just kept my feelings inside. Then, high school started the next year… And I started dateing guys so I assumed I was straight. Then after some boyfriends I started to fool around with girls. And I didn’t regret it. So I told myself that if I questioned being straight or bi sexual, then I’m straight. Well, I’m currently with a guy, who wants to have sex with me… And I’m a virgin (yeah, going to be a 16 year old virgin… It’s embarrassing), but I want to do it… I’m just scared what would happen after we did it? Like the emotional aspect. I just over think it and its now a fear to me. Like you know, how death is scary because it’s unknown of what happens? (which is one of he main reasons I stopped being catholic, and my moms trying to force me to find a new faith) it’s like that with sex and me, I’m so scared of it because it’s unknown. Ugh… So while I’m with my bf…. I’m desperately head over heels for my best friend (who is a girl) and has a bf…. We had a sleep over and we fooled around right under my moms nose. I’m going to be honest, I don’t even know why I feel like doing this at 2am…. I guess I just need to vent…. And I feel like I’m stupid. Stupid for being scared of everything…. Thank you if you read this, it actually made me feel a little better.

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lemonlimedefence offline Verified User (11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 26 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (6 hours, 32 minutes after post)

Well to me it sounds like your not scared of being bisexual because you want to be. It sounds like your scared of your mother and what she will think of your actions. Parents need to learn that they aren’t in control anymore, and you need to not be so stuck up. Your letting your mum take control and it is making you miserable. YOU make your decisions, and YOU stick to them. Looks like your mum is has always had her mind set on what your life will be like, and your dad dying certantly hasn’t help. When you say you messed around with your gf, what do you mean. To what extent. Did you know that women are naturally turned on by other women? Its because women have been designed to perfection by natural selection to be attractive. That’s why there are more lebians then there are gay guys. Guys on the other hand have been designed by natural selection to not care about there looks and to focus on creating another generation and being strong to hunt down cave bears and mammoths and stuff. Its different nowadays, but the basics are the same. If you feel this sort of way to your gf then you need to tell her sometime. Sounds like your bf just wants to get in your pants.

Also you should be proud to be a virgin. You are definatly not stupid, just confused and sacred. You need to tell your mum what is happening, and you need to tell her your feelings, and that you will not change by her will. You need to overcome your fear of displeasing her and look out for yourself more.

Hope this helps.

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