friends help: My gf went out and left me hangin’… - Help.com

a bit, yeah.

she has a life, so do you. if she spends all her time with you, it gets boring.

talk to her about how you feel, let her know what’s up. you two can sort it out.

Actually I think you are not asking for too much. I have the same problem with a lot of my friends, guys and girls.
They just kind of expect you to be ready whenever they want to do something but don’t think that you might need time to make your own plans when they ditch you. That’s bad manners.
Talk to her and tell her that she needs to be more dependable, you are her boyfriend, not her entertainer. And do it now, before it becomes a habit and she’ll end up saying you’ve never complained about it before. But be nice about it, or she’ll think you are making a scene for nothing.

I would lean on the “you are being unfair” side, but only a little. Ultimately it depends on you and your relationship - have you tried talking to her about this?

The red flag in this post to me is when you said she went out with her friends and boyfriends but she conveniently forgot you as you are her boyfriend. I think she is distancing herself from you. Not much boyfriend girlfriend relationship is in here. I wouldn’t ask her and tell her anything but do the same as she did to you. If she doesn’t respond to it you know it is over.

just want to add something; since i dont know either of you, i cannot make an accurate judgement on either of you, but you also need to gauge how much trust and loyalty you have for each other. for example, i go out with guy friends all the time without my bf (he has two jobs so when we hang out it’s usually just us two, although i’ll try to get the whole gang together whenever i can) and my bf has no problem with it. he trusts that i’m not dishonest and that i can handle myself. likewise, when he goes out with his friends, some of which are girls, i have no issue with it either for the same reasons.

but i know other people who need to have an eye kept on them, so it’s up to you to make your own judgement, and most importantly, communicate to your gf about how you feel.