Feel help: What do you guys think about people who look down on others? - Help.com

can you please enlighten me….im not sure i understand that you are trying to say:S..
thanks

no i wouldnt….

It’s true. Most people look down on others in an effort to elevate their own self-esteem so as to mask their insecurities. I’d suggest politely asking this person not to talk to you in such a manner. If they choose not to show you the respect of talking to you like a normal human being then I’d refrain from showing them the respect of acknowledging anything else they have to say until they do so.

do not respond. a person says these things to you because they feel that if they can get you to feel bad about yourself, they have control over you. their words dictate your feelings. ignoring them lets them know that their petty attempt to manipulate you is useless. do not respond in any way, and do not give them the reaction they’re trying to get out of you.

both of your answers are great…may i please show a little more details about what actually happened??

so me and this person had a past history….we both made mistakes in our past…however the mistakes that he/she made is nothing comparable to what i did..his/her mistakes were way worse and out of line…so upon talking to him/her only as a friend recently, that person brought up the past with me and told me how he/she wanted to work things out between us now…he/she wanted answers and i gave him/her answers….i also told him/her that in a week i will send him/her a message….

when i messaged him/her, i explained to him/her what caused me to do the mistakes that i did…and in the message, i acknowledged the fact that i made mistakes, and i told him/her how i learned from them and and took responsibility for them…basically i owned up to my mistakes…it made me the person who i am today…

and i also explained to him/her that the mistakes that he/she did made me suffer a lot….

this is when he/she replied me in a very condescending manner…..part of him/her message was that he/she doesnt want to comment on it because he/she doesnt want to re-open the past…to me i felt that it was a very coward move….because if you recall, he/she is the one opened the past to me about a week ago…so when it came to talking about the past for HIM/HER to get answers, for HIS/HER advantage, its ok to talk about it….but when it came to talking about the past to explore HIS/HER mistakes, he/she quickly tries to crawl out of it and pulls out the “i wont talk about it because i dont want to re-open the past” card….it was so obvious to how he/she was trying to run away from admitting his/her mistakes….i owned up to my mistakes and look at what he/she did?…he/she talked to me in a way that she is the one who has to forgive me only and that i have nothing to forgive her for because she did nothing wrong…when in fact, the truth is that she made HUGE mistakes too….

Personally, I wouldn’t waste my time dialoguing with this person anymore. Nobody is going to blame you for not wanting to have any friendly relations with a person who refuses to acknowledge their mistakes. If discussing the past mistakes on both of your parts was her idea, then she needs to be willing to discuss the things she did wrong just as you did and not try to sweep her mistakes under the rug. I’m betting she is aware that her mistakes are worse and therefore she feels very reluctant to discuss them.

Oh well. It’s not as if you can twist her arm to get her to own up to her mistakes.

so i did the very right thing by not even replying to her message then

Yes. At least Ozy and I think you did. :)

she is very aware that what she did is way worse…yet she makes it look like she is the one leaving all of this behind because of what I did…she’s making it look like and implying that there is something wrong with me and that is why its not gona work out….even tho i didnt reply to her condecending message, there are so many thing that i can say to her to put her back in her righteous place…bt the thing is that she has a big ego…no matter what i say and how true im speaking, even if the truth is right there, she will deny it and argue even more…like the way she replied, i felt like i was talking to a monkey…like i was talking to a person with no brain…..thats what the ego does….when the truth is presented to them, if it doesnt fall in their favour, they will deny it no matter what and make even the most ridiculous excuses to try and save face…its very unfortunate because no matter what you do, no matter how sincere and honest you are with that person, you cannot communicate with them because you feel like you are talking to a wall

Oh, believe me, I know exactly how you feel. ;)