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misskatiekat
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one of my friends is dating my brother.

we aren’t really “close” but we do talk at school and such (well i know its summer but still) Not only that, but this is the SECOND time they’re going out. If it was my best friend it would be one thing but i still find it really awkward! my brother is in college and my friend is the same age as me (15) from my pov, i dont understand how it will ever work out!
1. they broke up before, so there must have been a REASON why they broke up
2. i was at a party with her around the end of june and she told me personally that she liked this other guy! (she said his name but i won’t say it here)
3. my brother’s heart has been broken by this one girl already(who unfortunately has the same name as me) and is seeking a freaking therapist because of it
4. i don’t want to be mean but my friend was been whoring around with other guys…she has had MANY boyfriends before my brother

WHY WHY WHY WHY WHY? this crap happened to me last summer and now it is going to happen again are you kidding me?
i’m sorry if i am over reacting but i’m worried about my brother. what on earth do i do? i can’t accept their relationship still! i didn’t do it last year so how am i supposed to do it now?

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windmills, offline Verified User (5 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

You need to tell your brother about all of this.

Also, your brother should be dating girls near his own age. No offense to you, but that’s the problem I see here - this girl is too immature for him. And that’s due to the fact that she’s entirely too young for him.

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SlightlyUnique offline Verified User (4 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (35 minutes after post)

I would cite the other side - you love your brother but this is his life. Its not your place to interfere and its up to him and her to see if they can make it work - not you.

If it does work against the odds - fantastic - if it doesn’t, then they will learn and move on

You can’t say what is best for them - for all you know dating someone with the same name as his ex is actually doing him a massive amount of good.

Bow out - watch if you must but don’t interfere - you wouldn’t like it if he interfered in one of your relationships even if he did with the best of intentions!

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (53 minutes after post)

SlightlyUnique wrote:
I would cite the other side - you love your brother but this is his life. Its not your place to interfere and its up to him and her to see if they can make it work - not you.

If it does work against the odds - fantastic - if it doesn’t, then they will learn and move on

You can’t say what is best for them - for all you know dating someone with the same name as his ex is actually doing him a massive amount of good.

Bow out - watch if you must but don’t interfere - you wouldn’t like it if he interfered in one of your relationships even if he did with the best of intentions!

Once more a unique and good reply by SlightlyUnique!
I fully agree.

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misskatiekat offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 11 minutes after post)

SlightlyUnique wrote:
I would cite the other side - you love your brother but this is his life. Its not your place to interfere and its up to him and her to see if they can make it work - not you.

If it does work against the odds - fantastic - if it doesn’t, then they will learn and move on

You can’t say what is best for them - for all you know dating someone with the same name as his ex is actually doing him a massive amount of good.

Bow out - watch if you must but don’t interfere - you wouldn’t like it if he interfered in one of your relationships even if he did with the best of intentions!

thanks for the advice! um, his ex has the same name as ME by the way…not her XD

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