guy help: i so desprately want a guy now - Help.com

Siren wrote:
i just cant meet guys outside of work

Why not?

Siren wrote:
guys just dont approach me. they dont look twice at me. they dont start talking, the dont come over and hit on me. nothing.

But what about YOU?
You have to develop some activity your own.
Are you just waiting that somebody discovers you?

Some hints:

“How to Find True Love”:
http://thinksimplenow.com/relationshi…

“How to Find a Boyfriend”:
http://www.ivillage.com/how-find-boyf…

“How to Date”:
http://www.wikihow.com/Date

Siren wrote:
but i dont know what to do. im not going round asking random guys out. i just dont know how to get to know someone new.

And that my dear is why you aren’t being approached - its because you are looking!

Do things that have NOTHING to do with dating and you’ll start having better luck because you are enjoying yourself.

Also, think of it reveresed - if there was a man that was desparate for a girlfriend, how interested in him would you be?

Also - why is it the guys have to come to you exactly? I believe this has been said in your prior posts :P

Now - stop being fed up and go and do something that you enjoy!

I think it’s bad if you feel like you need a boyfriend or girlfriend.

When you become desperate to have a boyfriend or girlfriend you’re just setting yourself up for disappointment, in my opinion. Nobody wants to be around anyone who is desperate or needy. Those are the two most unwanted qualities when it comes to finding someone to date.

Do you have any friends to hang out with to help eliminate some of your loneliness and boredom?

Blank pages are not all bad. Take this time to be yourself. Have fun and be you. In time there will be new loves.
Until then, there is fun yet to be written! :)

Siren wrote:
guys just dont approach me. they dont look twice at me. they dont start talking, the dont come over and hit on me. nothing.

You have to make the move to a certain extent it’s what I did with my ex and even though we’ve broken up I don’t regret it because if I hadn’t've made the move I never would’ve experienced having a boyfriend. Don’t go for the loud mouth arrogant morons, go for the shy introvert guys. I met him in a club (I’m not saying go looking for guys in a club coz it was a one off) but I plucked up the courage and spoke to him. I’m completely on the same page as you btw, guys never approach me either, I’m overweight, I prob come across as annoying and drunk, and I don’t care what people think and to some people it annoys them but do I care? No. Look you will find the right guy it just takes time, it took me 20 years to find a bf lol I went through my whole teen years being single, going out having a laugh with my mates and enjoying myself, the subject of a boyfriend only came up and got serious when I hit my 20s and I decided to calm down a little bit, well that and plus I lost a whole bunch of friends from my teen years lol. But never give up hope you will find someone and it will be when you least expect it.