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Am I controlling his money?

My partner and I have been living together for the past year or so. Every dollar I have goes on rent and bills, his money goes on food, petrol and things we want/like.
We just got into a fight because I reminded him we have an $80 bill to pay when he was going on about wanting to buy energy drinks and more nerf guns (already has over $500 worth of them, he mod’s them). In my opinion, his priorities are all screwed up. But he says I’m too controlling with his money, when all my money goes on rent and bills? Help? Am I too controlling?

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windmills, offline Verified User (5 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (43 minutes after post)

Too controlling? No. I don’t think so. He needs to realize that his spending priorities are out of whack.

Are yours and his expenditures divided equally? It doesn’t seem right that you have to take care of all the grown-up responsibilities while he gets to play with kids’ toys.

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verge offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 134 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (46 minutes after post)

You aren’t being unreasonable for expecting him to help pay for your combined living expenses before nerf guns and energy drinks when all of your own money is being put into rent and bills. Your partner sounds like he needs to grow up a little. Did you confront him about the issue calmly?

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spiratec9 offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Burnaby, BC, CA | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (3 hours, 8 minutes after post)

tell him if he behaves himself you will buy him this laser guided
surface to air missle:

http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-KAYGPYeGqlk…

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Help me with: This is the most intelligent 3 year old on this planet.
spiratec9 offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Burnaby, BC, CA | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (3 hours, 13 minutes after post)

Or this:
Http://www.ebay.ca/itm/nerf-n-strike-…

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