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I feel so insecure about my self , I feel like no one

will ever seem to love me because I’m thick , like I’ve had fell in love with this guy who felt the same way for me , we )haven’t seen each other in person , but we’ve talked for ages , and I felt like I should just stop talking to him and let him go before we saw each other , we were going to meet up at gay pride in S.f but I didn’t respond to him when i he asked where I was by because I was scared of what he wa going to think of me , ….. I feel like there’s no guy out there who will love me because I am thick , I feel like whenever a guy is telling me he’s falling for me I feel like his feelings will go away when he find out I’m thick .

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the tree 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

You say the two have you have talked for ages and arranged to meet. If anything, that tells me that he’s interested! Don’t waste that opportunity ;) go see him!
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Diane marie #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

I already messed it up with him , we don’t talk any more , I just feel so insecure about myself and at the end it always seem so get in the way with the people I start having feelings for , I don’t think any guy would have feeling for me because I’m thick

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the tree 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

Just give yourself a chance. Nothing’s going to happen if you’re going to shoot down every opportunity that presents itself, before anything actually happens!
Have you tried messaging him? Something like, ‘thinking of you’, see how he responds? Or is it definitely over
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Diane marie #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

It’s defiantly Over , he has a new gf

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the tree 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

Then just see this as a lesson and move on
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Diane marie #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

I mean I moved on but I know even if I did I don’t think there’s someone who will accept me for how I am , how I look.

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Zirbel 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

Boost your low self-esteem! That may help you next time.

“How to increase your self-esteem”:
http://www.mind.org.uk/help/diagnoses…

“Six Behaviors that Increase Self-Esteem”:
http://www.changeforgood.com/articles…

“Boost your self-image with these 5 steps”:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/self…

“Self Esteem Affirmations” · Tutorial:
http://www.wiziq.com/tutorial/63505-S…

“Developing Self Confidence”:
http://www.wiziq.com/tutorial/28204-D…

“How to Improve Self Confidence, Self Esteem and Overcome Fear of Rejection”:
http://sofs.hubpages.com/hub/Building…

Dragon_Lady 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (3 hours, 9 minutes after post)

I was scared of what he wa going to think of me
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You can’t possibly know what another person will think of you!

The very things you think are unattractive, may be his favorite traits. The things you are worried sick over, he may not even see.

Stop wasting time trying to see yourself through his eyes, and instead, focus on seeing HIM.

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nolateri 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (5 hours, 21 minutes after post)

If you are hitting it off with someone on line send pictures of yourself then they will know what you look like so it is no suprise and you will know they still are interested.

Also for the record there are guys out there who like heavier set woman. I know guys that will only date girls who are heavier.

There is someone out there for everyone if you just look in the right places.

Personality is the biggest attraction to begin with. So it’s not your looks you don’t have going for you it is your attitude!

If you don’t like yourself how is anyone else going to like you!

Zirbel posted some greta links to look at.

Stop being critical of yourself and start building the foundation of who you are. If you don’t like something about yourself “CHANGE IT”. PERIOD!

If you have an insecurity about your weight then do something about it. Maybe if you spent more time working on this and not searching for love on the computer you wouldn’t be feeling this way!

Weight issues ar differant for many of us….with out knowing why you have a weight problem I can’t help you on this one. It could be for many reasons. Even thyroid problems that you have no control over and need to see a doctor.

Anyways! Look at yourself and decide what YOU can do to change how you are feeling!

Also if you do share pictures share RECENT ones…so no one is suprised or uncomfortable.

Good Luck! I wish you the best now you go do what is best for yourself!

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