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i love him but i cant be with him

i spent the last few weeks wanting my ex back, now ive seen him at work the past week and we have statered talking again i feel like im falling all over again. but then i remember last time. when id go over to talk to him and he’d say something like ‘oh i knew you’d turn up soon’ or when i’d go over to sit with him at lunch he’d say ‘want something?’ he’d make me feel so unwanted. then when i felt like giving up on the relationship he’d be all over me, comeing over and talking to me and being nice.

he just cant treat me how i want to be treated. like he text me that he really wanted to kiss me before he got to work and it was my day off, so i said come over for 5 mins, work is about 4-5 mins away so he wouldnt be late, he lives 30 miles away anyway. and he just said ‘pfft **** that!’

and he never remembered anything about me. he just makes me feel like im nothing. and i need more. he told me im like a middle aged woman, just coz i said we should go out and do something instead of sitting in and , ya know….

but somehow i love him, i know he wont change, and it breaks my heart :(

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enkindled 2 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (55 minutes after post)

I don’t like the way this is sounding. I would cut contact for a few weeks and see where that gets you. If you’re not happy now, though, (and not many women would be with these actions from a guy) I don’t think it will get much better. While no man is perfect, you can easily find a man who will give you the attention that you deserve. Be fearless and fly solo for a while.

I don't like the way this is sounding. I would cut contact for a few weeks and see where that gets you. If you're not happy now, though, (and not many women would be with these actions from a guy) I don't think it will get much better. While no man is perfect, you can easily find a man who will give you the attention that you deserve. Be fearless and fly solo for a while.

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Zirbel 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 19 minutes after post)

Oh my gosh! Cut for ever!
Even if you warm over a spoiled soup it remains a spoiled soup.

Face it, that you have to move on, and look out for a new and real friend.

Not more to say, see: http://help.com/post/553248-i-so-desp…

Oh my gosh! Cut for ever! Even if you warm over a spoiled soup it remains a spoiled soup. Face it, that you have to move on, and look out for a new and real friend. Not more to say, see: http://help.com/post/553248-i-so-desprately-want-a-guy-now

The Sherlockian 38 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 37 minutes after post)

The guys at your workplace are losers.

You’re looking for a brand new Mercedes in a junkyard. You won’t find it there!

Forget about the losers at work and look for a guy elsewhere. Workplace romances almost never succeed, and YOUR workplace seems to be a magnet for guys who are losers!

The guys at your workplace are losers. You're looking for a brand new Mercedes in a junkyard. You won't find it there! Forget about the losers at work and look for a guy elsewhere. Workplace romances almost never succeed, and YOUR workplace seems to be a magnet for guys who are losers!

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Siren 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 47 minutes after post)

you guys are right, i did cut for about a month, but i dont htink it will ever change. i know i need to let go but when i do he is the sweetest guy. its like when im not interested he is, and vice versa.

you guys are right, i did cut for about a month, but i dont htink it will ever change. i know i need to let go but when i do he is the sweetest guy. its like when im not interested he is, and vice versa.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (3 hours, 4 minutes after post)

Siren wrote:
its like when im not interested he is, and vice versa.

That really shows that there is something wrong. He likes to have your attention and affection, but doesn’t reciprocate. Move on and be prepared to prevent yourself from succumbing to his next bout of affection as you pull away. Ugh, these guys are terrible. I’m sorry he couldn’t care about you the right way.

[quote Siren]its like when im not interested he is, and vice versa.[/quote] That really shows that there is something wrong. He likes to have your attention and affection, but doesn't reciprocate. Move on and be prepared to prevent yourself from succumbing to his next bout of affection as you pull away. Ugh, these guys are terrible. I'm sorry he couldn't care about you the right way.

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