guy help: I get bullied every day because I’m pale. - Help.com

you look pretty too me! pale is pretty:) or can be! i am pale to00…just not pretty lol

nahh and they’re probs just teasing you! don’t take it sooo harhsly!!

I think that this is very strange. Are you from the Jersey shore or something? There is absolutely nothing wrong with being pale. Lol, if I went out in the sun for an hour at the beach without sunscreen, I’d almost certainly get burned. People poke innocent fun at me for burning so easily, but nothing else. I think you should either toughen up or stop hanging around such weird shallow people.

hahaha word. are you from the jersey shore?

I’d forgotten how cruel and sadistic people are in school, prob one of the happiest days of my life was leaving school and not having to deal with any of that bullying crap. Do not feel down about yourself because that’s how they want you to feel, and that is ******** some guys prefer pale girls to girls who look tanned. Also why should you have to change just coz they can’t accept you for being pale? They’re stupid and immature and just trying to show off in front of their childish little friends and trying to be funny coz that’s all they have in their boring lives and they’re so pathetic that they know the best years of their life are gonna be in school because when they leave it’ll be unwanted pregnancies, **** dead end jobs and falling out with people they thought were their real friends in school. If this gets too much for you tell someone about this because bullying (even if it’s name calling) is a serious thing ppl think it’s not unless you’re being beaten to a pulp but it IS I’ve been there I know what it’s like and things only got better once I told people.

dude…that’s a little harsh…i think her friends are just teasing her…or they are just mean people that you shouldnt hang out with…because legit…unless you live in the jersey shore hahaaaa…there is nothing wrong with being pale!!

You don’t have to change, and the people around you shouldn’t be treating you that way AND…. Try tanning slowly perhaps. I’ve read that how we tan is directly linked to the reserve of antioxidants in the skin. Low antioxidants and we burn, high antioxidants and we don’t. Do some research and see what you think about it.

I had some things people made fun of me for. After a while I decided I wanted to change those things. I mean, why not. Not because you have to to be valuable and worth as a human but because I like to look and do my best.

Either way, it really hurts yes and people have No right to treat you that way.

Words can only hurt you if you let them. I know it’s hard to ignore them, but perhaps you can take some solace knowing that these people will experience bad things for being rude to you. It’s sort of like karma.

I truly feel sorry for those people who are obsessed with tanning because little do they know that too much sun is counterproductive.

hellosweetdreams wrote:
dude…that’s a little harsh…i think her friends are just teasing her…or they are just mean people that you shouldnt hang out with…because legit…unless you live in the jersey shore hahaaaa…there is nothing wrong with being pale!!

Yeah you have banter with friends and you have a laugh, but if they’re teasing you to the point of tears and making you uncomfortable and wanting to change yourself they’re not your friends and it is bullying, just my opinion.

windmills, wrote:
Words can only hurt you if you let them. I know it’s hard to ignore them, but perhaps you can take some solace knowing that these people will experience bad things for being rude to you. It’s sort of like karma.

I truly feel sorry for those people who are obsessed with tanning because little do they know that too much sun is counterproductive.

I fake tan but that’s just because I like the way I look when I’m fake tanned I don’t do it for other people I’ve been fake tanning for years I wish I could accept myself as being pale and normal but I can’t lol it’s weird ever since I was 18 people have always seen me as the badly fake tanned party girl it’s like a self ingrained image or something.

I saw a post floating around here somewhere about how people who like suntanning are ‘intellectually challenged’. If you can find it, just print it out, descend to their level and start bullying them back. Say, ‘Look at the facts! You are intellectually challenged.’

I hope that helps.

I have nothing against fake tanning or real tanning. I understand most of the reasons for wanting to tan - because I used to think it was cool. But after learning of all the health risks involved I think I would just rather be a vampire.

windmills, wrote:
I have nothing against fake tanning or real tanning. I understand most of the reasons for wanting to tan - because I used to think it was cool. But after learning of all the health risks involved I think I would just rather be a vampire.

I would never go on a sunbed and I don’t sunbathe because there’s no point I don’t tan naturally, fake tan can look really bad and smell really bad but it’s better than getting cancer.

I think “paleness” should come into fashion.

Sweetie, I am nineteen and the whitest, palest, fairest person on this planet. I’ve been called everything and I’ve been made fun of my whole life by my family, my best friends, guys, my boyfriends, and mostly by strangers and acquaintances. Society tells us that tan is beautiful, but what it doesn’t tell us is that there is a risk to tanning, both indoors and by sun. It damages your skin terribly and ages you. Those pretty tan girls will have bills so large from wrinkle cream and plastic surgery, they’ll be in debt forever.
I know things are tough and it’s hard to be different, but things get better. A lot of guys think it’s pretty, and even sexy, for girls to be fair. And frankly, I think fair girls are more beautiful than girls with fake tans. Don’t get me wrong - tans are pretty. I would of loved to be born with naturally tan skin, but I just wasn’t. And you got to play the cards your dealt. I know it’s cliche, and I really do know how rough it is, but I’ve been there and I’ve been through it. I am literally the color of this computer screen. But the people who make fun of us are no better than jerks and scoundrels, and they have a lot of catching up to do in the real world. Don’t be ashamed of your paleness, embrace it. :) When you get old, you’ll still look young and pretty and wrinkle free. And anyone who says else wise doesn’t matter. At all. Ever. Seriously.

windmills, wrote:
I have nothing against fake tanning or real tanning. I understand most of the reasons for wanting to tan - because I used to think it was cool. But after learning of all the health risks involved I think I would just rather be a vampire.

I have had so many people ask me - completely serious - if i was a vampire or not. Like, really people? Come on.

Allthemessylove. wrote:

windmills, wrote:
I have nothing against fake tanning or real tanning. I understand most of the reasons for wanting to tan - because I used to think it was cool. But after learning of all the health risks involved I think I would just rather be a vampire.

I have had so many people ask me - completely serious - if i was a vampire or not. Like, really people? Come on.

You should’ve replied with “Why, yes, I am. And if you enjoy soaking up the sun as a mere mortal then you’d better make like a banana and split.”

Allthemessylove. wrote:
Sweetie, I am nineteen and the whitest, palest, fairest person on this planet.

To me this is good proof that pale people are great. Un-greatness can’t diminish that greatness, it’s like how the dark can’t put out the light.

I mean to say that people’s petty insults can never reach your true value, it’s just junk they want you to take personally.

windmills, wrote:

Allthemessylove. wrote:

windmills, wrote:
I have nothing against fake tanning or real tanning. I understand most of the reasons for wanting to tan - because I used to think it was cool. But after learning of all the health risks involved I think I would just rather be a vampire.

I have had so many people ask me - completely serious - if i was a vampire or not. Like, really people? Come on.

You should’ve replied with “Why, yes, I am. And if you enjoy soaking up the sun as a mere mortal then you’d better make like a banana and split.”

haha i’m totally going to remember that one for next time. :)

president mindhealer wrote:

Allthemessylove. wrote:
Sweetie, I am nineteen and the whitest, palest, fairest person on this planet.

To me this is good proof that pale people are great. Un-greatness can’t diminish that greatness, it’s like how the dark can’t put out the light.

In fact, doesn’t darkness make the light just shine brighter? I think I got that from…batman? Does that sound right? Oh, I have no idea lol. But I get what you’re saying lol.

Shouldn’t the bullies get bullied for bullying?

lol

jackson1442 wrote:
Shouldn’t the bullies get bullied for bullying?

From what I understand there isn’t actually a measurement for darkness. They measure it by the absence of light. Same thing with cold. There isn’t actually a measurement. It is the degree of the absence of heat.

Allthemessylove. wrote:

president mindhealer wrote:

Allthemessylove. wrote:
Sweetie, I am nineteen and the whitest, palest, fairest person on this planet.

To me this is good proof that pale people are great. Un-greatness can’t diminish that greatness, it’s like how the dark can’t put out the light.

In fact, doesn’t darkness make the light just shine brighter? I think I got that from…batman? Does that sound right? Oh, I have no idea lol. But I get what you’re saying lol.

You can measure darker skin by counting melanin concentration.

jackson1442 wrote:
Shouldn’t the bullies get bullied for bullying?

that doesn’t make any sense…..?

Exactly. It is the presence of the melanin or the absence of the melanin. Either way, it’s the melanin baby!

Don’t know what my point is but I felt really intelligent for thinking of it. LOL

president mindhealer wrote:
You can measure darker skin by counting melanin concentration.

hahaha nice.

lairmct wrote:
Exactly. It is the presence of the melanin or the absence of the melanin. Either way, it’s the melanin baby!

Don’t know what my point is but I felt really intelligent for thinking of it. LOL

president mindhealer wrote:
You can measure darker skin by counting melanin concentration.

You can’t measure bullies because bullies don’t count, except in a negative way.

Allthemessylove. wrote:
hahaha nice.

lairmct wrote:
Exactly. It is the presence of the melanin or the absence of the melanin. Either way, it’s the melanin baby!

Don’t know what my point is but I felt really intelligent for thinking of it. LOL

president mindhealer wrote:
You can measure darker skin by counting melanin concentration.

jackson1442 wrote:
This isn’t a real quote, I just put it in!

I still think bullying is messed up.

lol, Clever.

president mindhealer wrote:
You can’t measure bullies because bullies don’t count, except in a negative way.

Think of it this way. You don’t’ fight something you don’t’ think is bigger or better than you in some way. I mean, seriously, would you haul Tush on a 1 year old toddling over to you and hitting you with your toy. No way!

So if someone is bullying you than they see you as better than them in some way. It’s just not human nature to deal with something that is insignificant with so much energy.

jackson1442 wrote:

Allthemessylove. wrote:
hahaha nice.

lairmct wrote:
Exactly. It is the presence of the melanin or the absence of the melanin. Either way, it’s the melanin baby!

Don’t know what my point is but I felt really intelligent for thinking of it. LOL

president mindhealer wrote:
You can measure darker skin by counting melanin concentration.

jackson1442 wrote:
This isn’t a real quote, I just put it in!

I still think bullying is messed up.

I will just laugh ,,,and be careless . things are not worth to worry ..

A random peace person wrote:
Who shall bully a person? I have never heard of it!

I made that up lol. I love how you can make up quotes yourself!

Yes, again!

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jackson1442 wrote:

Allthemessylove. wrote:
hahaha nice.

lairmct wrote:
Exactly. It is the presence of the melanin or the absence of the melanin. Either way, it’s the melanin baby!

Don’t know what my point is but I felt really intelligent for thinking of it. LOL

president mindhealer wrote:
You can measure darker skin by counting melanin concentration.

jackson1442 wrote:
This isn’t a real quote, I just put it in!

I still think bullying is messed up.

ME!!! Lol wrote:
How do bullies live with themselves???

Largest quote ever! Read the last one. That’s my message that I added.

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Sticks and stones will never hurt me.

tell them #1 wrinkles! and #2 skin cancer. the things you will have and i wont ;P

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Lol made that up

jackson1442 wrote:

jackson1442 wrote:

Allthemessylove. wrote:
hahaha nice.

lairmct wrote:
Exactly. It is the presence of the melanin or the absence of the melanin. Either way, it’s the melanin baby!

Don’t know what my point is but I felt really intelligent for thinking of it. LOL

president mindhealer wrote:
You can measure darker skin by counting melanin concentration.

jackson1442 wrote:
This isn’t a real quote, I just put it in!

I still think bullying is messed up.

ME!!! Lol wrote:
How do bullies live with themselves???

Largest quote ever! Read the last one. That’s my message that I added.

Lol

honestly, this is just an odd thing to pick on someone about…but I have come to the conclusion that these people are just bullies, are oddly teasing friends, and are picking on something that even mainstream america does not have a problem with lol.

president mindhealer wrote:
Sticks and stones will never hurt me.

But words will break your bones?

verge wrote:

president mindhealer wrote:
Sticks and stones will never hurt me.

But words will break your bones?

I know you are but what am I?

president mindhealer wrote:

verge wrote:

president mindhealer wrote:
Sticks and stones will never hurt me.

But words will break your bones?

I know you are but what am I?

twinkle twinkle little star,
what you say is what you are!

verge wrote:

president mindhealer wrote:

verge wrote:

president mindhealer wrote:
Sticks and stones will never hurt me.

But words will break your bones?

I know you are but what am I?

twinkle twinkle little star,
what you say is what you are!

I’m rubber and you’re glue,
whatever you say bounces off me
and sticks to you.

You are a fantastic person! HaHA!

verge wrote:
You are a fantastic person! HaHA!

May this return to you tenfold.

I feel like I lost somehow *consternation*

verge wrote:
I feel like I lost somehow *consternation*

Maybe you were secretly trying to make me lose? Then if it’s reflected at you, you make yourself lose.

I just want you to win and to never ever be bullied again.

president mindhealer wrote:
Maybe you were secretly trying to make me lose? Then if it’s reflected at you, you make yourself lose.

I just want you to win and to never ever be bullied again.

I think it was in the nature of the game for me to want you to lose and my only options were to either keep fighting forever or to give in and bear the consequences of admission.
Thank you for wanting me to win and not be bullied. I haven’t been bullied, just to let you know, but maybe your thoughts will be like protection should anyone evil ever want to hurt me.

Kat… We kind of had a lot of fun with your post. Ummm. Did you have anything to add. (Sheepish Grin) lol

LOL I wish I was pale

If that is you in the picture then you are quite cute. As for not tanning, don’t fret on it none. I personally think paler girls are cute and a bit of a rarity. Who needs a tan, that’s fake.

You.
Are.
Gorgeous.
Dont let anyone tell you differently.
Who needs them? youve got friends here :D

put up a ‘don’t fu** with me look’ on your face

Yay, We helped. Nice!

kat1thompson wrote:
Thanks to everyone who helped. You really helped me. Thank you so much. I actually have more confidence now. haha Thank you so much. I had some good laughs reading your little conversations on here x) 3

Let’s end *this* argument.

president mindhealer wrote:

verge wrote:

president mindhealer wrote:

verge wrote:

president mindhealer wrote:
Sticks and stones will never hurt me.

But words will break your bones?

I know you are but what am I?

twinkle twinkle little star,
what you say is what you are!

I’m rubber and you’re glue,
whatever you say bounces off me
and sticks to you.

Start a new post. : p

jackson1442 wrote:
Let’s end *this* argument.

president mindhealer wrote:

verge wrote:

president mindhealer wrote:

verge wrote:

president mindhealer wrote:
Sticks and stones will never hurt me.

But words will break your bones?

I know you are but what am I?

twinkle twinkle little star,
what you say is what you are!

I’m rubber and you’re glue,
whatever you say bounces off me
and sticks to you.

verge wrote:
Thank you for wanting me to win and not be bullied. I haven’t been bullied, just to let you know, but maybe your thoughts will be like protection should anyone evil ever want to hurt me.

Maybe, here’s a little rhyme you can use in times of fear:
“I am on the verge of courage.”
You could say that until you manage to pull yourself into the courage zone.

president mindhealer wrote:

verge wrote:
Thank you for wanting me to win and not be bullied. I haven’t been bullied, just to let you know, but maybe your thoughts will be like protection should anyone evil ever want to hurt me.

Maybe, here’s a little rhyme you can use in times of fear:
“I am on the verge of courage.”
You could say that until you manage to pull yourself into the courage zone.

Thanks.
Here is a little rhyme you can use in times of stress:
I am almost de-stressed.

verge wrote:
Thanks.
Here is a little rhyme you can use in times of stress:
I am almost de-stressed.

Exactly. That’s how positive thinking works. You imagine the state you want to be at, imagine that it is possible to get there.

Make sure you use the actual name of what you want in your affirmation. Don’t say “stressed” in your affirmation unless you want stressed to be what you affirm.

Maybe try:

I’m more peaceful now than I was.

president mindhealer wrote:

verge wrote:
Thanks.
Here is a little rhyme you can use in times of stress:
I am almost de-stressed.

Exactly. That’s how positive thinking works. You imagine the state you want to be at, imagine that it is possible to get there.

Normally that is true, but I found recently that by focusing on a thought to overcome worry, it draws up any latent worries I may have forgotten about and exposes them to my directed positive thinking process. It’s pretty interesting, in that it definitely causes me to be in a state of pure worrifulness, but also has the key to dealing with it.

lairmct wrote:
Make sure you use the actual name of what you want in your affirmation. Don’t say “stressed” in your affirmation unless you want stressed to be what you affirm.

Maybe try:

I’m more peaceful now than I was.

president mindhealer wrote:

verge wrote:
Thanks.
Here is a little rhyme you can use in times of stress:
I am almost de-stressed.

Exactly. That’s how positive thinking works. You imagine the state you want to be at, imagine that it is possible to get there.

president mindhealer wrote:
Normally that is true, but I found recently that by focusing on a thought to overcome worry, it draws up any latent worries I may have forgotten about and exposes them to my directed positive thinking process. It’s pretty interesting, in that it definitely causes me to be in a state of pure worrifulness, but also has the key to dealing with it.

How do you take action to overcome your problems when you are so worried? I just start to shake if I’m that worried.

I’m not saying overcome worry with the affirmation. That is focusing on worry.

You are not trying to overcome worry, you are feeling peace. Do you feel any kind of peace at all in your life? focus on that. or maybe just focus on what it would feel like to feel peace. If you ask yourself what would peace feel like if I could feel it right now? Do you feel something? Anything different than that might be even a portion of what peace could feel like? Then from there you can affirm truthfully that you are more peaceful than you were a moment ago. That would be a true affirmation that has nothing to do with overcoming anything. It would be affirming that you do feel more peaceful now than you did.

president mindhealer wrote:
Normally that is true, but I found recently that by focusing on a thought to overcome worry, it draws up any latent worries I may have forgotten about and exposes them to my directed positive thinking process. It’s pretty interesting, in that it definitely causes me to be in a state of pure worrifulness, but also has the key to dealing with it.

lairmct wrote:
Make sure you use the actual name of what you want in your affirmation. Don’t say “stressed” in your affirmation unless you want stressed to be what you affirm.

Maybe try:

I’m more peaceful now than I was.

president mindhealer wrote:

verge wrote:
Thanks.
Here is a little rhyme you can use in times of stress:
I am almost de-stressed.

Exactly. That’s how positive thinking works. You imagine the state you want to be at, imagine that it is possible to get there.

Of course in the end it’s whatever works for you is the right way to do an affirmation. I suppose I’m pushing my way of doing affirmations a little bit here. I could have put this in a way that just proposed a considering of what I was saying.

There is nothing wrong with being pale! I am super pale myself! When I was younger, I used to teased about it too. Especially as a teenager. However, now that I am an old 31 year old, all those overly tanned girls are getting lots of wrinkles. And I look younger than them. I can only imagine the difference when we’re all old ladies! You’ll look younger than them too when you’re older.