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Am I being unreasonable?
Or are my “friends” really selfish?
I have recently gotten into a new relationship, though as I am 15 I’m obviously not taking it too seriously. It’s early days, we’re still getting to know each other, but we do really like each other, we have loads in common, and I’m happy. :)
Or I was, until I realised how much my two “best friends” really think it is a bad idea. The first thing they did when I told them was bring the conversation back to themselves, and how miserable they are not having boyfriends; I felt a bit ignored, but went along with it, until they started telling me they were happy for me but it would never last.
They don’t know him, they have never met him, but they were comparing him to their exes- or rather, one was, the other was comparing him to the boy she met a handful of times but never asked her out.
I know his friends, and he seems honest. Unlike my friend’s ex, my boyfriend’s secret girlfriends have not been sending me malicious messages on Facebook; unlike the nearly-ex of my other friend, he has been brilliant to me and is not stringing me along- he has asked me out, he seems honest and according to his friends he genuinely, really likes me. Also, I did not meet him on Facebook!
So I don’t get why my “friends” have to be so aggressive in convincing me that it will never last and I don’t know him well enough. It’s not like I’m marrying him! Nor do I expect to, it’s just a casual thing, so I don’t get why they have to try to stop it.
Then again, it’s always like this. The last time I had a boyfriend one of my friends actually started crying because I gave him a kiss in front of her, because she did not have a boyfriend.
Yes, I sound angry, because I am. Why am I not allowed to have a bit of fun and be happy? Is it just me that thinks they are being jealous?
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