work help: My fiance just let his 50 year old friend move in to our apartment without telling me beforehand. - Help.com

—– wow. you probably wanna shoot him. lol. i would. want to i mean. not actualy do it.

But in the interest of loyalty and sensibility, he’s trying to do something good for his friend. which means he’s a pretty good guy, right? anyway, you might want to try talking to him about alternatives that may help his friend. If you help him help his friend get on his feet, then maybe you can save your apartment from the intruder.

OK…so he did not include you in a major decision. You need to first: Calm down. What’s done is done. When you feel calm: Discuss with him that you feel that, as his fiancee, he should have included you in the decision and tell him that in your marriage that you want to work together as a team when big decisions come up. Of coarse this means that you will have to be patient and receptive when he explains his motives behind his actions and know that he wasn’t deliberately trying to upset you. Finally, if you want things to work out, keep an open mind and try to become buddies with this 50 year old dude. If your guy likes him enough to move him in there must be a reason. He might be kinda cool. Of course, if it turns out that this guys is a total **** keep in mind that it’s your home as much as it is your fiancee and you can kick the guy out at anytime (with or without discussing it with your man before hand). Fair is fair. But give it a chance, first.