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my mother is 90 and lost her husband of 37 yrs.

1 yr. ago. now i am watching her deteriorate as she loses her will to live. how can i help her? can someone help me? i feel powerless and sick. i moved back home to care for my father, then he passed. then i stayed to care for my mother, but all i seem to be doing is annoying her and i don’t know what to do. now she has told me that i should leave. she is active, still drives, and retains much of her mental faculties. any suggestions are appreciated.

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TacosRocket offline Verified User (5 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 39 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

She’s angry and depressed. In that state helpfulness can be irritating. The only thing you can probably do is leave her alone if she wants and wait quietly, checking on her now and then so she knows she’s still loved and not alone and wait and see what she wants you to do.

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