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If he’s left you, is he even worth it?
This kind of mental extortion will never work!
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As much as i am sorry your husband left you, think for a moment. You do not NEED anyone else to make you happy. if you have to rely on others then you are just going to be dissapointed over and over and over again until you finally realize that you have to be capable of being okay on your own. If he just left you out of the blue for someone else, then hes not worth all this. And if it was over something else, then just take a moment to breathe an consider was i said previously.
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that’s kind’a sad. you obviously don’t want to if you’re posting it on a help site. death’s never the answer.
Try this: http://make-everything-ok.com/
actually it is decided because i sacrificed everything in my life for him and more..and this woman is tricking him you know…she made me so jealous and angry and confused i didnt know what was happening to me than all of a sudden my babys 8m 10ths of july he tells me he is dating someone else..i don’t really care anymore about anything..i believe marriage is forever..and if the person doesnt love he should let me go in hades anyway
i don’t want to but i cant live my life withought him..i literally can'’t…my soul is bound …i can’t do it …i live on the 7th floor am i going to die if i jump..or should i think of something else
a kid, wow that’s even sadder. if you don’t want to no one’s making you… and yes you can live w/ it(whether you soul is ‘bound’ or not). you’re not the first one this has happened to, ppl have made it through this.
You should think of seeking professional help for your depression and distorted perspective on life. There is nothing at all wrong with getting help. You will find that you can be happy!
Always keep the key to your happiness in your own pocket, don’t let anyone else hold onto it. It’s YOURS.
wow, that’s too much for me. you need serious mental help.
i never ever thought i would get to this point in my life trust me..no i cant be happy..you dont know how much i sacrificed for him…i begged him so much and i was on knees i have been crying for weeks…if he wants to surrender my soul into darkness he can..if he really doesnt love me he will eventually leave me and this is when i will do it
maybe people made it through this before but they haven’t literally sacrificed everything for the person..i have spend years trying to do everything for him..i did everything he wanted me to ..and now he wants to get rid of me like i am a worthless piece of ****
i never wanted kids..i didnt even want to have this child..i was never going to have kids unless it was in a proper family..
i dont really care about anything anymore..if he doesnt want to be with me my death is really his will…because i tried so hard..so hard..i organised a job for him..i helped guide him into this job and then i let him walk her home becase i was doing everything that he wanted me to do..he loves his job…loves his life now..wants someone else..while he lets me rot like some rubbish..his family has been abusive to me for years..i took everything all the abuse. i did everything i could but now i am just done…
death for me awaiting i already cut my arm a lot and i am just waiting for my fate..i know how i will kill myself..i will kill myself the way i planned to kill myself when i was 13 when my abuse father just woldnt stop screaming at me..i have suffered enough life..i am done..wherever i will go…death is the answer..mane people should in fact kill themselves..
we live in a broken world..in a horrible world..and i believed in love..i believed in fairytales but now everything is over…
Please understand that no pain in life is constant. I really believe that and more than that i think the pain you are clearly feeling is a lesson - in the future you will be happy and it will be obvious why your life has taken you this way. No one gets away scott free everyone feels deep hurt at some point - just spend a little time thinking about your loved ones and their hurt - it will be there, the same feeling. So be strong understand that you will love and be loved again and kick that loser out of your life!
no when i said my vows in church before GOD i meant them..too bad he didnt..
he is either can have me or lose me forever..
I understand but personally I don’t believe in God. All I am trying to say is be strong, I’ve been through too much to bore you with but it gets better - That is all i can give you but please believe me!
Anon, you need to call for an ambulance right now!
Suicidal plans are a medical emergency; and you need medical help. The fact you plan to murder your baby too is a very, very serious problem. You need to call for immediate help.
I believe you are suffering postpartum depression. Your husband is probably having trouble adjusting, too. This is going to ruin three lives. You need to seek help, and you need to do it TODAY.
You need to call for an ambulance, and tell the doctors the truth so they can get you some medications, make sure the baby is safe, and get both you and your husband into counseling.
Please, please call for them. You took the first step by asking for help here. Now pick up the phone, and get the medical attention you need.
i do have postpartum depression i think..i am not sure..
i am kind of thinking about a lot of things right now..
i have all these cuts and a lot of things actually..
and you know what i dont think i can do it …
he really doesnt care about me in that way..
he never took our marriage seriously enough..
i mean i should just let him do whatever he wants to do…
and then if he wants he will come back to me..
but if he doesnt thats okay..
i have to take care of this baby..
its hard looking at her though sometimes..
because it reminds me of him..
i kinda need to let it go..
he is too involved in being a nice person..
and friends with everyone..
and this woman just kinda came into his life..
because he always tries to be everyone’s hero..
in fact he is doing the same type of thing to me right now..
caring for me like i am sort of animal..
maybe we were never meant to be to begin wih..
i mean not like this..
its just really sad…
i know his weaknesses..
nad i told him not to make friends..
but he did..
and he let this woman into his life..
and let her into his heart..
and then pushed me out..
she is a sweet talker..
she is a seducer..
really i dont think its going to work out for them..
what a shame..
Anon, I understand how you are feeling.
You are right; you have to take care of the baby. But before you can do that, you have to take care of yourself. And that means getting some help.
Call for some help right now. Otherwise, those feelings will keep coming back, until they overwhelm you and cause you to do something you can never, ever undo.
Please. Just pick up the phone, and call for an ambulance. The doctors see new mothers who go through this all the time. They know what needs to be done. And then you and your husband can seek help together and you may be able to save your marriage.
Please don’t do this. I know it hurts. The pain is absolutely devastating when people who should have protected and loved us betray us. Before you kill yourself, call and talk to someone. Here’s a national hotline: 1-800-273-8255. Things may seem awful right now, but they don’t have to stay this way. You are worth something and you are worthy of life.
You don’t have to take care of this child if you don’t want to. Any hospital, police station, or fire department will gladly take your child.
Please talk to someone before you do anything permanent.
I understand that you are not well, upset, unstable that’s why you NEED to talk to professionals, they are there to help people in you situation, they have experienced in offering help!
1-800-273-8255 Suicide Prevention Lifeline
I’m begging you to at least try to seek help it worked for many people and you can rebuild you life too if you try, or LET THEM TRY.
Whatever you decision is PLEASE at least leave the baby alone, put it up for adoption or something at least let him/her to have a chance to live.
I wish you all the best and not to give up.
i have desociative identity disorder..of course they will keep coming back..i cant do anything about that ..i don’t want to go to anyone because if i do i will dragged down into the same hell i was for all those years while my real problem was undiscovred and i was left untreated..no thanks not again…save our marriage..our marriage is over i think it will never be okay again..seriously i feel so betrayed too but i just cant seek help because i am kinda done with it all..i would love to sue the medical system though for leaving me untreated and pumping with drugs that only made the disorder worse…i have suffered too much trauma in my life and this is one of those times where i dont know if i want him back..i cut myself a lot…look i dont know if i can forgive him for this..he knows i have problems but he chose thatgirl…i really honestly hope she is worth it..because if she is not what a shame
its just sad..she stole my life..i was making so much progress in my life..she stole it before i had the chance
do you know how hard it is to be properly diagnosed and treated for it?
years of being abused by the psyc people in my teenage years..
it is just a bit too much for me…
i want to make sure this never ever happens to me again..
its one thing having problems..
and another thing when people make problems out of your problems
it only took me years and years to realise this
lost the person i love and now i realise what is going on..
why not before..
i had doubts before but after this happened to me
i dont have any doubts anymore..
i realise what this is fully and completely..
but the reality is why can’t people actually pay attention to it..
i had all the symptoms of dissociative identity disorder..
yet i was left untreated do you think i should sue?
The proper authorities have been notified.
no i plan on killing the baby too..
This will generate very bad karma for you in your next life.
I would very much recommend you think of finding your soul mate.
Nothing else will do.
Anon, listen to me, please. I have been where you are. I have been ready to take my own life. I have been to the doctors and I’ve taken the medicines and I’ve been to the counseling. I know how hard it is to do, and how painful it can all be.
But I also know that life, love and real happiness can be waiting on the other side.
You’re in too much pain to cope anymore. I understand that. I know that death seems to be the only real escape from that pain.
Your husband is in pain, too. He’s leaving because that other woman and the idea of a happy life with her seems like the best way to escape that pain.
And your child is in pain, too. About to lose both parents -orphaned at 8 months old!
Please, call for help. Don’t try to self-diagnose yourself and don’t close yourself off to the possibility of real help. I understand you went through somethign before that wasn’t pleasant. But that was then, and this is now, and now you need to act to change things before it gets any worse. Please.
i had all the symptoms of dissociative identity disorder..
yet i was left untreated do you think i should sue?
You need to see a psychiatrist who can tell you if that is true. If it is, then yes, you can and should sue.
But those things can only happen in the future, and first you must make sure that your baby and you both have a future.
Understand your pain. I was left with a four-year-old son. Killing yourself–and your baby–is NOT the answer.
We will walk alongside you . . . but you must trust us and not do something–irrevocable, OK?
Been where you are . . . and now am in a better place.
Will you talk it out . . . and trust . . . trust even though it may seem so hard right now?
One last thing. Your marriage is not necessarily over. You may think your husband has committed irrevocably to this woman–but that is not so.
I’m going to hazard a very quick analysis: the doctors screwed up your meds and you were “emotionally unavailable” to your husband for a while. This woman moved to fill the void. Your husband is not the strongest guy out there–but he may very well be salvageable and redeemable.
It’s all over, though, if you do something really stupid and find yourself before the Judgment Seat of God.
There is another way . . . if you will try it!
Get some help with the meds first. Agree that the doctors messed you up. I lost my faith in doctors when my mother passed away. Most American doctors are in the medical profession to get rich, not to help people. It’s different in Canada and Europe–the privatized system has brought out the worst in the medical profession.
Please trust . . . and give us a chance to help you and your baby!
I decided to keep fighting..I don’t want to be weak and let myself down..i was never going to do anything at all without seeking help on here first and then talking to my husband..we talked things through..we sorted things..its over but i think its going to be better this way..i’ve accepted things…
thank you all
So you think he doesn’t want to come back? Or does he think he cannot?
What does he say about leaving his baby behind?
I’d recommend telling him this: “We owe it to ourselves and to our child to go to marriage counseling before we dissolve a marriage. I still love you and I want our family back together. If we don’t do this, we’ll both have regrets–and we’ll have to tell our son/daughter that we didn’t even try to patch up things. Will you go if I make the appointment?”
Look..we had a very deep discussion..and unfortunately him leaving is separate from moving on with that woman..and i am learning to let it go completely..we both mistakes..and have our own weakness of character and unfortunately we are not able to cover with strength each other’s weaknesses..i am already looking to the future as i am 23 years old this year..i need to seriously start thinking of possibly find my own other half..we both realised we are not meant to be together..we were meant to be together and i don’t regret the child anymore..my child’s name is Faith* so I mean we went through a wonderful journey together but now it’s time to part…i was scared at first about who this woman really is but i realise she didn’t try to seduce him at all..if he is happy with her..and i am going to be happy with someone else one day.we have had too many problems/conflicts in our relationship…there is just too much hurt and pain from both sides…we are ending things for good..I don’t want to be with him anymore actually..i want him to be happy and i am glad he has found his happiness…such is life..and in life it doesn’t always work out how you wanted it to work out this is how i look at it now…but we were meant to get to this point…i am moving out of this place eventually..just trying to get all my things sorted out…and making sure i have a smooth transition…
I was looking very deep within myself..i had a thought and exaggerated emotion at the time i didn’t want to act on anything..i had the thought but i wanted to come on here..and explore my thought and i realised you know i can actually do this and i can move on..and its not so bad..i thought maybe i can’t accept the child in my heart because she looks like him and i have all this bitterness towards him..but it’s kinda gone…i realised you know that really he really didn’t want to leave me but just couldn’t love me anymore..i thought we were true love but when i look back on things i realise we aren’t..it’s complicated..and so hard to explain..but i want to make sure we have a positive relationship with each other not friendship just a positive relationship with each other..so that the child doesn’t really suffer..and gets to know her dad..we are sorting appropriate arrangements and everything…
Lastly i would like to say thanks again to people’s support on here..i really honestly just wanted someone to talk to..and it was good..really made sense of my life and what i should do..sometimes i think people just need another person’s perspective on things..
so anyway thanks again..
Anon, we’ve all been through breakups like yours. They aren’t easy, under any circumstances, and sometimes they’re just HELL for a long time.
But there is a “Mr Right” out there for you, and you will find each other one day.
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