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What happens doesn’t matter, what we feel about it does.

We generally see according to our feelings anyway. So then focus on how we feel about something instead of what we decide about it.

What we judge about someone or something is dependent on how we feel about it. If we feel the person is generally selfish, we will decide they do things accordingly. We will twist and change what happened until it fits with our belief about them.

If we believe the person is kind and thoughtful we will do the same just in the favor of our belief that the person is kind and thoughtful.

So it all comes down to how we feel. Let’s focus on that and learn to care about that and forget all these judgements we have about people. About anything.

What judgement are you willing to let go of so you can forgive?

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Positivemessylove offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (19 minutes after post)

Everything.
This post is wonderful. I’m sorry that there are trolls and thirteen year old girls with boyfriend problems that get more responses.
But I really see your point and it applies to me, ever presently. I think there’s a lot you can learn and live by this.

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sdorogin offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 4 hours after post)

**** true. But don’t you think our feelings are formed by some reality. I mean if we feel that a person is kind isn’t it his kindness that makes us feel so?

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