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I spent some time with some friends yesterday and even

though I enjoyed myself and my friends made me feel very welcome by involving me in everything that we were doing, etc. I still felt as if I was on the outside looking in. I don’t know why but it seems like this is a feeling with which I am all too familiar. I have felt this way around my family, some of my closest friends, in big groups, or small groups; it really doesn’t matter, for some reason or another I always feel out of place and as if I don’t belong and usually it has nothing to do with the people I am with. Anyone know why this might be? Am I just lonely? Or does it run deeper than that?

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Dalek Karan 10 #
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You are very lucky to have so many friends.

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Zirbel 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

To feel “feel out of place” in social situations is known as one of the symptoms of Social Phobia/Social Anxiety.

Pink Freud 44 #
Spokane, WA, US | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

Zirbel wrote:
To feel “feel out of place” in social situations is known as one of the symptoms of Social Phobia/Social Anxiety.

OK,that makes sense.I’ve already been diagnosed with that.

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Zirbel 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

Pink Freud wrote:

Zirbel wrote:
To feel “feel out of place” in social situations is known as one of the symptoms of Social Phobia/Social Anxiety.

OK,that makes sense.I’ve already been diagnosed with that.

It goes together with the thought: “I don’t know what to say” or “I don’t know how to act”.

Pink Freud 44 #
Spokane, WA, US | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

Zirbel wrote:

Pink Freud wrote:

Zirbel wrote:
To feel “feel out of place” in social situations is known as one of the symptoms of Social Phobia/Social Anxiety.

OK,that makes sense.I’ve already been diagnosed with that.

It goes together with the thought: “I don’t know what to say” or “I don’t know how to act”.

ok, yea.

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Pink Freud 44 #
Spokane, WA, US | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (31 minutes after post)

That makes a lot of sense. I almost cancelled but ended up going after psyching myself up for it.

Now that I think about it…

I seem to cancel or “almost cancel” a lot of social events which I have been invited too.

I guess it’s a bigger problem than I realized.

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Anonymous #
10 months, 2 weeks ago (33 minutes after post)

I agree with Zirbel that it could be social anxiety. I have social anxiety, and what you described sounds a lot like myself. Just know that you’re not alone in this way of thinking. And hopefully someday you’ll find some friends that you’ll really be able to relate to and open up to. And as for your family, you may never exactly feel like you belong around them, I know I don’t. But as I’ve aged, I’ve learned this: your close family members are literally the only people in the world who will always be there for you and love you unconditionally for the rest of your life.

Judging by your writing, you’re obviously a smart kid, and that’s something you can be proud of. It’s possible that your friends just aren’t on your level of intelligence or maturity. Not sure if that helps, but thanks for listening to my rambling.

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Pink Freud 44 #
Spokane, WA, US | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (36 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
I agree with Zirbel that it could be social anxiety. I have social anxiety, and what you described sounds a lot like myself. Just know that you’re not alone in this way of thinking. And hopefully someday you’ll find some friends that you’ll really be able to relate to and open up to. And as for your family, you may never exactly feel like you belong around them, I know I don’t. But as I’ve aged, I’ve learned this: your close family members are literally the only people in the world who will always be there for you and love you unconditionally for the rest of your life.

Judging by your writing, you’re obviously a smart kid, and that’s something you can be proud of. It’s possible that your friends just aren’t on your level of intelligence or maturity. Not sure if that helps, but thanks for listening to my rambling.

Thanks for your input, it means a lot.

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