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we were very close but it got to the point where i felt like i was pulling all the weight in the relationship and i was being abused (i worked hard for the money i earnt and she was on social secureity) so after a few things happened i got pissed off with her and i told her to try and fix things or not talk to me. so a couple weeks passed i didnt hear anything from her. then it came to a mutral friends birthday, i had hurd that she had got engaged to her boyfriend (nice enough guy but he’s a bully control freak and and ******* when it comes to me so i dislike him but he is good for her so i leave it be) and she called me to ask if i was going to the party i congratulated her on her engagement and said i might go. i didnt go cuz i was shattered two more weeks have passed and i thought i should try and make a little effort to properly say congrats for she was basicaly my best friend for near 7 years so i sent her a message saying we should meet up, she agreed and we started talking about our lives. since i parted ways with her she has gotten a job and has started to sort out her life. thats fine and i should be happy that she is doing that but i’m not. i’m not sure why but the fact i am now stugling to get by due to my work being over populated so limited shifts, studding full time nursing and having to support my boyfriend temarily and she has just flipped a coin and got a job with no effort and is earning near two grand a week has started to bug me. she works hard at her job and is planning to get on a course (bearing in mind it’s one where she s going to be payed to do it so more money in her pocket) and i should be happy for her but for some reason i’m struggling to be happy…

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verge offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 134 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (2 days, 13 hours after post)

I’m sorry that you are struggling. I think your life would be happier if you could be happy for your friend though. Try to stay positive.

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An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 4 weeks ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

Hmm, this is two relationships where you feel you were carrying the other person. In the case of your friend, when she stood up on her own two feet you weren’t happy but maybe jealous, and maybe a little “abandoned.” Wonder what will happen when you talk to your boyfriend about standing on HIS own two feet. Maybe you don’t, because you’re afraid he’ll leave you then. You should ponder why your two most meaningful relationships have been with people who were/are dependent upon you.

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