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i’ve always had problems connecting with people.

sure, i usually had friends, but very few of them and usually the ‘rejects’ that everyone else though were weird.
i was never really miss popular either, but when confronted with their problems and thoughts i always noticed that i can’t really connect with them either.
i like being alone; i need a lot of time for myself or i get annoyed. but i also sometimes need people around me and i want someone to really know me. but i never had a best friend (only a ‘prefered friend’) and i don’t really know how to make any friends at all. at least not outside of school or work, where i’m more or less forced to interact with people. i always need some kind of excuse.
is that still normal or do i need to worry? my parents are always concerned for me because i’m a family person and like to spend a lot of time with them, so they think i constantly need people milling about.

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Pink Freud offline Verified User (5 years, 2 months) Help.com Volunteer Moderator Long Term User Shouts: 54 #
Spokane, WA, US | 10 months, 1 week ago (47 minutes after post)

Kinda sounds like social anxiety/social phobia.

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wil offline Verified User (5 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 42 minutes after post)
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Positivemessylove offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 54 minutes after post)

how old are you?

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (9 hours, 56 minutes after post)

i’m 20. and it’s not really that i get panicky when i need to talk to people. it’s just that i’d rather they talk to me first. i’m pretty scared of rejection.

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Pink Freud offline Verified User (5 years, 2 months) Help.com Volunteer Moderator Long Term User Shouts: 54 #
Spokane, WA, US | 10 months, 1 week ago (9 hours, 59 minutes after post)

white_callavswhite_l wrote:
i’m 20. and it’s not really that i get panicky when i need to talk to people. it’s just that i’d rather they talk to me first. i’m pretty scared of rejection.

Fear of rejection falls in line with social anxiety.

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (10 hours, 1 minute after post)

white_callavswhite_l wrote:
i’m 20. and it’s not really that i get panicky when i need to talk to people. it’s just that i’d rather they talk to me first. i’m pretty scared of rejection.

It can help if you boost your self-esteem which seemingly is very low.
 
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http://www.mind.org.uk/help/diagnoses…

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Lexus911 offline Verified User (1 year, 12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (14 hours, 56 minutes after post)

Don’t worry, I understand exactly what you’re going through! Unfortunately, my family thinks I’m a psychopath because of it. I really believe it’s the social anxiety. Learn to build confidence and you’ll be just fine, hun! God Bless!

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