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okay so this guy (lets call him bob) has been like my best friend for long time and we’ve been through a lot.

and I love him to bits but I think his starting to like me (as in more than a friend) and I only like him as a friend but I dont wanna push him away and I dont wanna lead him on either. I really dont wanna loose him though. and I feel like anything I right now might make me loose him. and i really dont want that. WHAT DO I DO????? PLEASE HELP :(

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Dr. Ralph offline Verified User (4 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (11 minutes after post)

Nothing you can do. Guys that are attracted to girls eventually want to be more than friends. Tell him you are not attracted to him, he is just a buddy and watch him cry. It is best for all involved.

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Dragon_Lady offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (3 hours, 1 minute after post)

Nothing you can do except slowly back away from him. Tell him the truth if you must; but if you can just slowly find other places to be, other people to spend time with, other interests that don’t include him. Eventually someone will replace you in his life.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (6 hours, 12 minutes after post)

Just keep doing what you’re doing until you are really positive he likes you. At that point, let him know that you don’t want to lose what you guys have, but you also don’t want to be more. And no “maybe in the future or something?” to save his feelings, it will hurt him more. Make it very clear (in a nice way) that you are not interested in him. He won’t want to hear this and probably will get hurt, but keep being nice to him, give him space when needed, and then after some time, encourage him to like other girls. Maybe set him up with a few girls, but push him away (in THAT way) from you. This is a really hard situation, but you’ll get through it just fine. Best of luck to you.

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