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He’s your boyfriend?
And he hangs out with other girls?
And “lays” next to them “talking” to them all night at parties?
And he’s lied to you before?
Wow. The solution to your problem is kind of right in front of you.

Doesn’t seem like a friendship. If he’s acting like that AND has a crush on her, that’s a red flag.

Put your foot down on some Dos and donts or end it.

Princess Mew. wrote:
Doesn’t seem like a friendship. If he’s acting like that AND has a crush on her, that’s a red flag.

Put your foot down on some Dos and donts or end it.

if he’s your boyfriend and has a crush on her, then do you really want to be with him?

Allthemessylove. wrote:

Princess Mew. wrote:
Doesn’t seem like a friendship. If he’s acting like that AND has a crush on her, that’s a red flag.

Put your foot down on some Dos and donts or end it.

if he’s your boyfriend and has a crush on her, then do you really want to be with him?

I didn’t ask the question Sooo xD
I think you can have crushes while with someone. I mean you’re not blind or anything. It just depends on if you act on them. She can always try to see if being a bit more agressive can work out since being depressed only makes you wanna shut up.

Personally, I’d tell him to GTFO. From personal experience, this has lead to cheating.

I was talking to the OP, but I was quoting you.

Princess Mew. wrote:

Allthemessylove. wrote:

Princess Mew. wrote:
Doesn’t seem like a friendship. If he’s acting like that AND has a crush on her, that’s a red flag.

Put your foot down on some Dos and donts or end it.

if he’s your boyfriend and has a crush on her, then do you really want to be with him?

I didn’t ask the question Sooo xD
I think you can have crushes while with someone. I mean you’re not blind or anything. It just depends on if you act on them. She can always try to see if being a bit more agressive can work out since being depressed only makes you wanna shut up.

Personally, I’d tell him to GTFO. From personal experience, this has lead to cheating.

Princess Mew. wrote:
[quote Allthemessylove.]
I think you can have crushes while with someone. I mean you’re not blind or anything. It just depends on if you act on them. She can always try to see if being a bit more agressive can work out since being depressed only makes you wanna shut up.
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I think you shouldn’t have crushes while your with someone.
Why?
Because when you are “with” someone, I assume you mean dating like boyfriend/girlfriend/whatever the case is, that sort of means exclusively. Which sort of means only the two of you. Which is sort of called a relationship, which is sort of based on honesty and loyalty.
Without all the sort of’s, of course.

When you date someone you should just be dating them. And having crushes is like your body or mind telling you that you want to pursue them, and to pursue someone else while your dating someone isn’t right. It’s about one move away from cheating. Some would even call it cheating of the mind.
If you can’t handle being loyal in a relationship, I recommend taking up something less of a hassle. Like “open” relationships, which never work. Or knitting. Or prostitution.

Op, just do whatever you think you need to.
But if I were you I would get some real advice from real people in your life that you look up to, say maybe your aunt or teacher or close and personal friend.
Hope this helps!

Er that’s not right, I’m sorry but I wouldn’t have that at all you need to talk to him about this and let him know that there are certain boundaries in a relationship. Doesn’t sound like they’re just friends to me if he’s admitted having a crush on her and laying next to her talking O.o

Find a new boyfriend