It just feels like there’s something wrong
Okay, so for anyone who read my last post about ‘Should i let what other people think about someone change my mind about being with them?’ (i know i put it as annoymous, but i didnt mean to but yeah.) i did go out with the guy.
We’ve being going out for just over a week, so its still pretty new. Everything was great, not awkward at all, and we were both really happy.
But just recently, like the last couple of days, something was wrong. Like, I didn’t feel it, I could just tell something wasn’t right. I didn’t know what it was, but he just felt a bit more distant, a bit less affectionate, and conversation didnt flow like it used to.
This was slowly killing me inside while I was around him, and my mind kept picking out more and more little things that weren’t right. Like, he didn’t look me in the eye, he seemed more interested in talking to my friends than me, when i touched his fingers he didn’t squeeze my hand like he used to. Just tiny little things. He didn’t wait for me after class.
Now this probably sounds pretty stupid, but i guess I just get paranoid about these things.
What kinda made it worse, was that all this was reminding me of exactly how i felt last year just before my ex dumped me. So that wasn’t exactly helpful..
I dunno. It’s just, before he was the one obsessed with me, and now he seems… i dunno.
And it didn’t help that my friend told me he said I was kinda clingy, which bascialy confirmed my doubts. But, tbh I don’t particularly trust this friend, and she may have got the wrong end of the stick of what he was saying, or maybe even made it up. I really dunno. But what she said kinda makes sense.
I guessed, beacuse he was the one who asked me out, the one who wanted to spend time with me, who missed me… that being clingly, and too-affectionate was like, impossible. If you get what I mean.
Can anyone help??
I really don’t want to break up with him. And i don’t want to lose my friendship with my friend (the one who said i was clingy). Am i over-reacting??? ~that happens a lot. What can i say.
My other friend just thinks that this is a tiny hiccup in our relationship, and that this happens with everyone. After all, its still early days.
She thinks I should talk to him - is that a good idea?? I mean, I want to tell him about this, but I know trying to get guys to open up and talk can just push them further away.
Any ideas would be amazing!!
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