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Just try to convince her that you really do love her, and maybe suggest that she get some counseling.

I did more than once, but she doesn’t listen anymore !

mohamed_adam8 wrote:
I did more than once, but she doesn’t listen anymore !

I had a friend very similiar to yours, we met in school we were so close we were like sisters, she was a recovering anorexic, but also suffered from severe social anxiety, depression, and probably had a bit of Bipolar as well because her mum was Bipolar and they say it’s genetic. We’d been through everything together then out of the blue 2 years ago she ignores me and decides she wants nothing to do with me because I’d tried contacting her for weeks and the only thing I could say to get her attention was “if you don’t talk to me I’m deleting you from facebook” might sound harsh but I tried talking to her every day asking her if she was ok letting her know I was there for her and I loved her I stuck with her when most people would have run a mile I did more for her than her own family did I gave her self esteem and raised her spirits and the reason I tried contacting her via facebook and telephone was because I was worried about her I was worried something had happened to her and before this incident of her ignoring me and cutting me out of her life we used to speak almost every day why she decided she wanted nothing more to do with me I do not know because I’d given her so many chances to talk to me and I told her I wasn’t serious about the facebook thing, I think it was prob because she had found what she always whinged about wanting, a boyfriend, never mind the fact she’d already had two and we’d both agreed when the time was right we would find boyfriends and be happy. People who bring you down and are miserable 24/7 are just dead-weights as friends I’m sorry but it needs to be said, I’m not a happy clappy person and I agree in calling a spade a spade and when you’re up **** creek in life you need to acknowledge it so you can get yourself out of it but this girl was too much for me and that is saying something because I’m on serious anti depressants and have been on them since I was 18. I told her to go to counselling I told her to go see a doctor about her constant headaches I tried encouraging her to come out and see me so I could cheer her up but it didn’t work, I’m not being rude I believe in helping those in need but some people like my former best friend don’t want to be helped and when they don’t want or can’t be helped by you and they’re ignoring you, being mean to you or iscolating themselves from you and the outside world or w/e you need to cut them out of your life because all they’re gonna do is drag you down like an anchor at the end of the day there’s only so much you can try and help and be there for people who show no appreciation or care for it. I tried to be there and help my best friend with every ounce of strength I had for four years so nobody can’t tell me I didn’t try but in the end like I said I did what I had to do I cut her off and let her get on with it with her new “boyfriend” you need to tell your friend to either get help or you’re gonna stop being her friend, at the end of the day you need to think about yourself and your life as well as hers.

you are right
I have to think about myself, or I’ll lose it.
thanks a lot, I appreciate ur help