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Should I hang out with friends who insult my intelligence?

I’m not going to lie, I don’t get the best grades in college because I’m too focused on trying to heal my depression and trying to figure myself out. I get the worse bouts of depression that makes completing simple tasks unfeasible or even difficult to even get out of the house. I learned to cope with the situation by being on my own, but it is getting difficult. I only spend time with two friends since my depression hit, and both of my friends think that I am stupid and completely incompetent. They don’t understand how difficult everything is for me. I hate being judged, but I’m a nice person… I try to not let it get to me, but I’m officially considered a loner and becoming to feel like a complete weirdo to everyone.

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Positivemessylove offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

sounds like you need some new friends.

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10 months, 1 week ago (14 minutes after post)

I live in a small area… everyone seems to be connected one way or another. I try my best to avoid social situations because I would prefer to stay away from being judged even though I understand that it is completely inevitable…. but by doing so, when I begin to hang out with my friends… they treat me as if I don’t know anything when I spend most of my time reading books or reading the news just so I can keep up to date with the current events. Maybe it is because I speak slow because I feel as if there is no purpose in anything… I dislike my friends — I’m acting like a teenager when I am 20 years old.

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♥ Fairytale ♥ offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (27 minutes after post)

certainly you should end your friendship with your friends that insult your abilities

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Soz_ata offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 28 minutes after post)

I am kind of in the same situation. I understand a bit how you feel. This can’t go on any longer. It’s great that you’re a nice person and you try to keep it in but you have to worry about yourself sometimes as well. This has probably gotten to the point where it’s largely affecting you so you have to face it. I suggest talking to your friends, separately would probably best. Tell them you really like them as friends but you’re going through a really rough time and you don’t like the way they are treating you. The important thing is to be straight forward about your feelings so there won’t be any misunderstandings. Hope it works out!

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gupta.tanve offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 40 minutes after post)

well. its very important to be surrounded with the right set of people. so make new friends and avoid the negative energy you ve been collecting.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (3 hours, 40 minutes after post)

I would’nt hang around people who are negative towards you espeacialy if you have depresion. It will only make you worse. You are talking to someone who has MDD. I’m going through a lot of depresion myself. If these are your so called friends mark them up as acquaintances.

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