friends help: I was at a gym and a guy talked to me today and we chatted.

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I was at a gym and a guy talked to me today and we chatted.

We both hike and climb so I thought it was cool because we possibly can be hiking/climbing friends. He asked me my email address. I thought I shouldn’t give him because I’m in a long distance relationship. But I didn’t know he was asking my email only because he wanted a climbing friend. If so, that’s cool. So I gave him mine.
But later, we chatted more, I could tell he was interested in me.

Then he sent me a msg saying “Nice to meet you. Let’s meet up when you have time.”

I’m not sure if he means for a gym or a date. I don’t want to give him a wrong idea and I only want to be a working out friend. If he doesn’t want, that’s okay. I’m not an English speaker so I don’t really know how to explain those nicely and politely.

Could you please give me some examples?
Thank you!

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IrAdler 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (7 minutes after post)

Tell him: OK, when are you coming next time to the gym? that will tell him you are interested on him only as a climbing friend

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Anonymous #
11 months, 1 week ago (16 minutes after post)

be a gal wrote:
Tell him: OK, when are you coming next time to the gym? that will tell him you are interested on him only as a climbing friend

ah! smart!! Thank you so much!!

Tymbus 7 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (21 minutes after post)

Yeah Anonymous is right. But you will also need to drop in to your next conversation something that makes clear that you are not looking for a romantic relationship.I tried to think of some examples, but everything I thought of could make matters worse! Lol! Anyone else?

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Anonymous #
11 months, 1 week ago (34 minutes after post)

Tymbus wrote:
you will also need to drop in to your next conversation something that makes clear that you are not looking for a romantic relationship.

That’s correct. And it is difficult because what he told me was only “Let’s meet up :)” then if I reply a loooooong msg to explain my position it’s kinda self conscious and rude, I guess.

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Tymbus 7 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

Oh yeah don’t explain on line! explain face to face!
@anonymous: back under your bridge

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Anonymous #
11 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 12 minutes after post)

A good way might be telling him whether your boyfriend likes hiking or not

Anonymous #
11 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 16 minutes after post)

Tymbus wrote:
Oh yeah don’t explain on line! explain face to face!

ok! That’s more polite. I’ll reply to him like “be a gal” said and have to clear no romantic feeling! (somehow) Thanks for the tips!

Tymbus wrote:
@anonymous: back under your bridge

hehe.

Anonymous #
11 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 18 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
A good way might be telling him whether your boyfriend likes hiking or not

good idea :) I think I should mention about my bf in a conversation next time! not in an awkward/weird way! thanks!

Anonymous #
11 months, 1 week ago (2 hours after post)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
A good way might be telling him whether your boyfriend likes hiking or not

good idea :) I think I should mention about my bf in a conversation next time! not in an awkward/weird way! thanks!

Welcome ! :)

helen424 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 9 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
You talked AND you chatted…?!?? Oh my God! Alert the media. Call CNN. Hold a press conference! Release a Youtube video of the occurrence. Get on Face the Nation…
Was TMZ weevils anywhere nearby? Society needs to be made aware!

Ahem. They said they weren’t an english speaker… Give them a break.

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SlightlyUnique 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (3 hours, 8 minutes after post)

Aother way is that you could talk about your bloke when you next talk to him :) (I have to get home at X time, I need to give my partner a call!) or similar :P

Anonymous #
11 months, 1 week ago (11 hours, 21 minutes after post)

SlightlyUnique wrote:
Aother way is that you could talk about your bloke when you next talk to him :) (I have to get home at X time, I need to give my partner a call!) or similar :P

ahhh~~~~ that is really smooth and not obvious! I’ll do it!! Thank you!! :D

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11 months, 1 week ago (11 hours, 24 minutes after post)

people here are really helpful and smart! Thank you Help people!

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