Money help: my bf keeps borrowing money off me. - Help.com

pisses you off that he keeps asking or you keep falling for it?

Tell him that untill he pays back previous loans there is no more money for him.

saulwilliam wrote:
asking for money, he has such a high self esteem, yet i have a low one, i give in to everything he says.

that’s unfortunate, granted only you are responsible for your actions. why not ask him for $, say you’re running short and need about $40.

You can read up about “assertive communication”, and it’ll give you tips about saying no, setting boundaries, and standing up for your rights in a respectful but firm manner.

Sounds like hes taking the pee. He knows you’ll give in. Stand up for youself.
Look up Mindhealers advice.

Just tell him that you are sorry but cannot afford to lend money, not to family, not to friends, not to anyone.

Friend gives more than whatt takes ..

Not too a friend who will trying to extort you or playing and Exploits u.

if you don’t have it then you don’t have it. he’s a big boy, he can manage.

saulwilliam wrote:
Thanks for your replies. He’s not going to get paid until the end of august, that’s why he needs the money. If I don’t lend it off him he will have to borrow off the bank.

Then he should definitely be borrowing from the bank. That’s the main purpose of banks, and what they love to do most — which is quite a contrast to your main purpose and what you love to do most.

Who cares what his excuses are? Your relationship is more important. If you let him get away with stuff that aggravates you then your relationship will be an annoying one.