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we are here.
We are listening.

Its ok to cry.
It hurts.
The fear and pain is sometimes all we can see.
We care for you.
My prayers are with you that you will be able to endure this hard chapter of your life. My tears fall from my eyes when I feel your pain.
I cry to God for you…

Cry to Him too.

Have you ever had someone listen to you and allow you to work through this without diagnosing or evaluating you?

I’m trying to get a feel for how you are feeling but each time I read when you say how you feel it is an evaluation.

“I feel like she thinks I’m a freak.” This is an evaluation of her and yourself. Not a feeling.
“I felt much better almost like normal” This is an evaluation, not a feeling.

If you want to know what to do, I would suggest starting to connect with your feelings in a way that you can verbally describe them.

I will venture a guess,
“I feel like she thinks I’m a freak.” Means. I feel really sad, I want how I feel to matter more than what I do.
“I felt much better almost like normal” I feel more peaceful, Inside I think this is how it should be more like.

Do you see how you are mixing feelings with evaluations? or Needs? I think this could be a lot of your confusion of what to do.

There is a book that I LOVE, iT’s called “Speaking Peace” by Marshall Rosenberg. He explains this in detail. There is also a free feelings list and needs list on his website. cnvc.org. He calls it non-violent communication. Sheesh what a horrid title if you ask me. It doesn’t mean you’re violent. I wish he would get a better name. Would you give that a look.

Also I agree with roofdonkey, We are here, we are listening. Whatever you need. Advice or to be heard. Hugs!

.. you should speak out what you feel to all people you like ,, becaus eu need someone to stand next to u !! WE ALL DO ! and remember it is ok to cry ,!! try to read a good book or so …. dont forget , we are here :DDD …… would u all please help me in my post it is called medical scientist . thx alot

I don’t mean at all to give you something to feel bad about yourself over. I just think that you would be able to find the understanding you are looking for if you were more able to express yourself and understand your own feelings, thoughts and needs.

We care, for sure and some people are skilled enough to pull out the feelings and needs and wants out of what someone is saying. I’m getting there, but sometimes I need a little help from the poster to maybe do some searching and let me know, what is the actual feeling and the need.

You are being very willing to receive advice. You’ll get some good replies as people see your genuineness. Not that you haven’t already of course. Hugs!

ike_me1 wrote:
Thank you.
You are right. I’m not very good at explaining myself so how can I expect anyone to ounderstand what is going on inside me.

ike_me1 wrote:
Thank you.
You are right. I’m not very good at explaining myself so how can I expect anyone to ounderstand what is going on inside me.

Have you checked with a physician?
Perhaps what you are needing is to be diagnosed by someone who is best qualified to serve your needs medically as well as socially.
Do you have a history in your family of anyone else being bi-polar?