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Despite your fears, it could turn out great. Nothing ventured nothing gained, right?!
If all goes wrong, you could move back with your folks.

Tip: find friends who will rent a place with you.

it’s pretty important to live with people that you gel with. of course, with the economy so bad… people are living longer with the ‘rents. so it’s not unheard of. but it is pretty great to be on your own.

I would like to note that unpleasant roomates can make life a living… torture. haha. been there and wouldn’t do it again. Find someone you know, or at least insist on meeting your new roomies first.

After you live with roommates, you’ll appreciate your parents a lot more!

You’ll also learn about a side of people you haven’t discovered before.

Be prepared for the roommate or roommates who have a hard luck story when the rent’s due, or who eat all the food while never buying any, and who will invite their boyfriends to move in without asking first.

my my…..what a vexing problem….i definitely go with the idea of getting to know your roommates a bit….but you should try to move out…..the world is full of opportunities….and every experience counts….dealing with crappy people…savings….expenses….all part of the experiencing….but make sure you do a lot of researching first….it’s best to have first hand information before visiting the place……….GOOD LUCK !!!!! ^_^

a really useful like for private renting,home crimes and every info you need about rent a home/room:
http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/homeandco…

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you’re welcome honey

*Fairytale* wrote:
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I wouldn’t move out for the reason of wanting to get away from the parents. In the end if your parents were even half way decent you wont get any better than being with them.

If you want to move out, move out because you see an opportunity that you feel thrilled about. Some great people to learn life skills with. A great deal on a wonderful house in a great neighborhood you like, that you can split the rent with some friends.

Basically if you don’t have the skills to live with people who are driven to love and care for you and make choices with your best interest at heart, how in the world is your situation going to look like with people who care about you but have their own lives to think about, their own interests to consider. Obviously your friends will care about you, your other roommates will care about you on some level it’s just… well, you get the point, right?

I would figure out how to live with your parents then move out to experience the world.

I could have worded that different. I didn’t feel that your parents were the reason although I can see how it came off that way.

I’m just suggesting that you buff up your skills with your parents who are people who would most likely be the easiest to work with, then go out into the world. Of course, this is a slower way to enjoy what you are looking for. It would give you some of the best foundation to have a successful experience with people you haven’t met or lived with before.

Strangers have all the capabilities of becoming friends of course, it’s just if they don’t have the skills to regulate themselves you are going to be playing parent to them. If they don’t already watch themselves to be respectful you will be at the end of disrespect and either deal with it, or guide them to be better. YOu never want to Beat someone at their own game, you will pay for it in the end. Win-Lose = everyone loses. You will be in a position to having to foot the energy and time and thought bill to find a win-win solution.

You see what I’m saying?

I don’t think it’s pointless. The skill you need is social skills. The more you have the better your outcome with anyone. The less you have the less better the outcome. You can never know it all, just get to a place where you like the outcomes you get with people enough, then go for it.

True, each person will require something different of you to help make the relationship work. So for sure don’t get into the endless practice trap. Just get to where you are happy with how you handle stuff and always make sure you have an out strategy. What would I do if it did go bad? How could I leave if I needed to? Have this established as clearly as possible and you will be okay no matter what.

Hugs and your welcome!

Allthemessylove. wrote:
Yes. For the past week I’ve been trying to practice being a good roomate to my family. Like be more social and polite and considerate. I feel like its practice….but in the end I can’t predict anything about how the other girls would be until I met them. So it may be pointless. But who knows?I understand what your saying…and its very helpful. Thank you.

Based on my own experiences, I few things come to mind that may be of help. I hope that at least one of these ideas helps you.

It will be hard and expensive to move out of your parents house. Make sure it is worth it to you. I moved out when I went to college–when I was 18. It was really, really hard. None of my friends in college understood and I always felt very different from them. I had to grow up a lot faster. But for me it was worth it.

It seems you have a better relationship with your parents though, so you might be able to try things on a trial basis? Since you live near a college and it is summer, you might be able to sublet an apartment from students who have to be away for the summer. I did this one summer in college. Usually stuff like this is posted around campus.

Subletting means that you are renting the apartment from someone who already has a lease. So, for example, when I was in college I saw an advertisemnt in the Student Union for a female graduate student who had a 12 month lease on an apartment, but needed to be gone for the month of August. So she subletted the apartment to me for the month of August. If there are grad students or med students or law students where you are, they tend to lease to undergrads a lot. Make sure you meet whoever this is first and that you get to see the place beforehand. The benfeit of this is that is short term, the place will be furnished, and usually the person who has the lease will pay utilities. It would be a good trial period I think to see what it might be like to live on your own or, at the very least, be a nice vacation for you!

If you work things out with your parents, you might even be able to arrange keeping a lot of your stuff with them. Since in a sublet situation the furniture would already be there, you would only need to bring the stuff you would need during the time there.

student housing apartments, put extra locks on the door
If the windows slide open they have locks that clamp on or put a long piece of wood
to prevent the windows from opening. Which remind me i have to do that to my sliding back door

griffin195 wrote:
student housing apartments, put extra locks on the door
If the windows slide open they have locks that clamp on or put a long piece of wood
to prevent the windows from opening. Which remind me i have to do that to my sliding back door

you really think that’s necessary??

Why do you want to leave your parents house? Is life uncomfortable over there, or is it just that you want to feel self-sufficient and responsible for yourself? Will your parents allow you to come back to live with them if you leave now? These are some of the questions you should be asking yourself - because it is a major decision that you will be making.

Also, remember that just because you move in with someone else, life may not get any more comfortable - instead it may get more uncomfortable if you cannot get along with them. Sometimes its “better the devil that you know, rather than the devil that you don’t know.”

At the moment you are living at home, your expenses must be minimal, however, when you move out you will be paying for everything right from food, to soap, to detergents and electricity rent etc. When you do decide to move out, do it for the right reasons. All the best.:)

I’m so glad I was of some help. Make the most of your parents, I’m sure they must love you a lot. Being a teen-ager is not easy, but then neither is being a parent. We do our best out of love for you children, only, sometimes our ways do not jive with you all. I wish you all the best and when you do move out of home, I hope you will find what you are looking for. Just think, when you move out, your parent’s will go through “an empty nest syndrome” and they will miss you, so do make sure that you visit them often.:)

Anonymous wrote:

griffin195 wrote:
student housing apartments, put extra locks on the door
If the windows slide open they have locks that clamp on or put a long piece of wood
to prevent the windows from opening. Which remind me i have to do that to my sliding back door

you really think that’s necessary??

if you want to feel more secure, YES