Feel help: My bf broke up with me in april after a year we startd dating.. - Help.com

I think you are taking something out on him from your past . . . perhaps an overbearing father, or an annoying brother . . . or some other male figure you had a problem with.

You are wise to recognize these tendencies and to look for a cause and a cure!

I’d suggest counseling. I’m reminded of Joyce Meyers, the author of “Approval Addiction.” She was taking out things on her husband, and then realized she was doing it. She got into therapy. She found out the reason she was abusing her husband was that her biological father had molested her. She got help and she stopped in time. A friend of hers, abused in the same way, shrugged off getting help–and one day her husband had enough and left her.

Find out what is making you take out things on your boyfriend . . . you need to neutralize whatever is causing it so you won’t drive good men out of your life!

Sounds like you should of never got back together.

Evansent.:) wrote:
Sounds like you should of never got back together.

I think it’s time to bring your ship into shore and leave what’s behind, behind you.

I think you lost your trust in him and you feel insecure and unconsciously you want to hurt him. I know you don’t but what you said sounds like it. You have two choices: 1. try not to snap at him and ask him to remind you if you do that and stay with him and work things out; 2. break up for good.

why did he break up with you in the first place?

i don’t get why people try to date again after they’ve broken up with each other. either there was a good reason for breaking up, or there wasn’t one. if there was a good reason, then real changes need to be made for a relationship like that to work again, because real problems need to be solved. if nothing has changed, then obviously you’re going to keep having the same problems. if it was a stupid reason, then i don’t see why anyone would want to date somebody who was so fickle that they’d dump you for such an immature reason.