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I have a question about a Swedish guy I started chatting with.

I met him on a mutual web site we are on. He will be visiting New York City in mid August, and staying with a friend down there for a few days. The plan was that we would visit with me and hang out in upstate NY for a few days as well before he returns back to Sweden. He suggested I freind him on Facebook which I did and notice that when I am on he always initiates chat with me. I find him very physically attractive as well as refreshing with his upbeat attitude. I have flirted with him a bit and one particular conversation became ver sexual in nature. He asked if I was attracted to him and I told him I was. I asked as well and said he found me attractive too. He said that when we see each other in person and if there is a mutual attraction on that physical interaction level to relax and go with it, implying we could have sex if that was what we wanted. Not until he mentioned it did I really consider it and actually want it…

He is in a band and just last night he was up again super late recording trying to finish a piece with his band members.. He again started the IM convo and advised that he doesn’t have Internet access but he was texting me via his phone. Bc I’m curious I asked him if he normally IM on Facebook and he said he normally did with other musicians he coloborates with but not so much anyone else ( with his wording that what it implied). So bc of his limited access to the Internet I suggested we talk internationally. He said he would and suggested I download tango which I did. We then talked for about 1hour together. He is really sweet, funny and again very handsome. I never felt a connection like this with a guy from online before so I’m concerned that maybe I am reading possibly his friendliness as interest.

I want our together time to be fun and casual but if it turns intimate in not sure if that’s the best thing. Not bc i wouldnt want it but rather if that is the right kind of thing to do with a foreign man that is just visitng ( maybe he will think american woman are easy to get into bed, where i dont go to sleep with any man i am actually very selective) I already know how I feel just from the face time call we had. He asked me a lot of questions and generally seems to be interested in knowing about me. He was smiling a lot a d making jokes.

I look at him like as if he was an American man that was interested in a woman. Ie. men normally don’t like talking on the phone especially for almost an hour, or the fact that he always iniiates conversations via chat with me. So with all of this being said what are your slant and opinion about this Swedish guy?

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IrAdler offline Verified User (4 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 29 minutes after post)

Beware of the Vikings! Just kidding.
I don’t know, if he is that handsome and cute and chatty and all, I have a very hard time to believe he doesn’t have a sherade of girls following him physically, or on the net or phone. He will be visiting the US for a couple of days so at least he is honest about rushing into s e x. After all, his time is limited.
I know you understand my caution and warning.

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Owlwhispere offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 43 minutes after post)

Thanks for the advise. He has actually told me about himself that he just got out of a 5 year relationship, and that he wasn’t going to be with anyone till he gets over her. With that in mind, I initiated the sex convo via flirting with him. He catched on and asked me up front what my intentions were with him. I find him attractive physically, but also really like his personality. Most guys Ive dealt with have only paid as much interest as he did only when they were interested in me in some kind of romantic way. even before I said anything about sex I got this vibe…thats why I am unsure if its bc he is being friendly, interested or just a guy. lol

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The Sherlockian offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 41 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (11 hours, 49 minutes after post)

Be careful . . . it doesn’t appear to have the hallmarks of a possible long-term relationship!

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