buy help: i am 12 years old and when i go shopping my mom always wants - Help.com

Well i’m going to say try not to grow up to fast… and your parents will always see you in some light as their little kids. So keep that in mind. Glaring changes are going to be much harder to cope with then those that are gradual. Instead of going for something your mother sees as outrageous go for something… that’s maybe a little plain. Basic colors, no prints. Basic jeans… Then just favor those outfits out of your wardrobe which since your mother is the purchaser the other clothes that are now to young for you.

As your mom sees this older style on you… you can’t start phasing in the other clothes that you really want. But it’s the transition that will win for you in the end.

Or just be upfront about it. Tell her how your feeling, and how the clothes make you feel. Don’t get upset, yell, cry or anything like that. You speak calmly and clearly it’s more likely your Mom will be more understanding.

My parents are the same way. Just compromise-tell her she can pick one thing out whenever you two are shopping. There’s no point in buying a whole bunch of clothes you’re not going to wear!

A lot of people, not just people with 12 years of experience of life, will want to be treated like an adult and not act as one. I agree, with dstutzbach. Make sure you are not getting upset, yelling, crying or anything like that. It is a sure way to show her you are not old enough to choose your clothes.

I would talk to her like the adult you want her to see you as. I think this plan would work.

dstutzbach wrote:

Or just be upfront about it. Tell her how your feeling, and how the clothes make you feel. Don’t get upset, yell, cry or anything like that. You speak calmly and clearly it’s more likely your Mom will be more understanding.

You will fight this battle forever. I was the youngest child in my family and my parents treated me like the “baby” all their lives. Another thing is parents don’t like it when their children grow up, it makes them feel old. Parents especially want their daughters to stay young and innocent so you will just have to deal with it until you can get a job and buy your own clothes.

Girls do a lot of growing up when they are 12 and 13 and it is something parents do not handle well. This is probably not a lot of help to you but maybe at least it will help you understand why your mother wants to dress you like a 6 year old.

Every child has the problem,so do I.When I was your age,my mother always chose the big coats for me.She said I could wear that many years because I was growing.When I began my senior high school,I lived in school.Then I could buy clothes I like.
Don’t worry.Someday you can have your own choice.

The alternative is that you could be living in some dirt-poor country without clothes on your back at all.

It’s okay for you to not like the clothes you are getting and it’s good advice to understand that even things you don’t like are still blessings. It is a blessing to have clothes. To have someone buy you clothes. It’s a blessing to have someone care about what you wear. All of these are blessings and there are so many more that you enjoy and it’s okay to want something to be different. Inventions are made out of that kind of thinking.