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I am just so tired of going thru **** with my gf.

Lately we’ve been in therapy discussing her pmdd (pre-menstrual dysphoric disorder). I mean, she is so bitchy and not just around her period, but it just seems like lately she has no interest in me, no patience, and all we do is argue. My stomach is almost constantly in knots from the stress. I’m tired of being alone. I feel all alone in this relationship. BTW this is a sexless relationship (hardly no sex, like less than once every two month). I’m an easy going person, but she is honestly stressing me out! And b4 someone says, well, why don’t I just leave…Well, I have already invested 5 years of my life. She has made a lot of progress, if not I would’ve left sooner. During our therapy sessions, we uncovered some painful issues from her past and basically she only agreed to go down this much needed path b/c I said I would stay by her side through it. I/m hoping that we can get over this hurdle too.

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The Sherlockian offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 38 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (2 hours, 34 minutes after post)

Five years . . . and all you wanted to do was continue living together? Did you ever offer her anything more permanent, like marriage? That’s probably stressing her out, too, in ways I don’t think you could imagine.

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paisley offline Verified User (10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months ago (2 hours, 45 minutes after post)

We were engaged b/c she asked me bending knee in iron off touch of people at the airport waiting on their honiesm. But she asked and I said use. Now she wasn’t wearing her promise I bought het.or not wanting to lose it. So, now she wears it on a neckclace. Necklace around her neck. I already told her that I would not appreciate a move like that. So,.now I do not wear mine…and mine is.badass!!!

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paisley offline Verified User (10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months ago (11 hours, 6 minutes after post)

Man, I’m sorry that posts came out reading crazy. For some.reason the screen turns black when I type. Anyway, I tried.to explain that, long story short, we are engaged. I said yes when she asked on bended knee, but it is her who now wears my ring I gave her around her neck.

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Dr. Ozy online Verified User (6 years) Long Term User Shouts: 39 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months ago (15 hours, 30 minutes after post)

do you want to marry her? do you want to spend the rest of your life with her?

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trentlover20 offline Verified User (11 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months ago (19 hours, 43 minutes after post)

I think you have to ask yourself is she worth it? Is she worth all this agg and stress? And yeah I can imagine 5 years is a commitment and that it’s not easy to walk away but a relationship is not a relationship if it’s constant pain all the time and no happiness at all. I’m sure your gf is a lovely person and I’m sure she has her fair share of problems we all do but at the end of the day you need to think about yourself and the effect that this is having on you and what about if you get married or have kids and she’s even worse by then and you’re trapped so many people I know stay together when it’s the wrong thing to do just because it’s easy and for a quiet life.

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