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My boyfriend is still in love with his ex.
My boyfriend got really close to a girl about a year before we started dating (that’d be almost 3 years ago now). She lives in a foreign country and he was saving up money to go live with her. Unfortunately, when he had almost saved up enough, she suddenly stopped talking to him.
She was a BEAUTIFUL girl who was a little afraid of the internet. It took a long time for her to open up and send pictures of herself, town, etc. to my boyfriend. Because she was so pretty, every person she talked to on the internet kept bugging her for pictures. One day my boyfriend asked her what she was wearing (a normal conversation for them) and she freaked out, told him she hated him because he was like everyone else on the internet, and closed her facebook and email accounts…He’s never heard from her again.
My boyfriend was absolutely in love with her, and she blocked him out of her life because other people kept asking her for pictures. He had no warning anything was wrong and that he shouldn’t ask what she was wearing. But because he asked her that day, she completely severed contact.
My boyfriend can’t get over her. I think that since he so completely loved her and then the sudden loss (especially because it wasn’t directly his fault) has scarred him for life.
He tries to email her every once and a while, but it doesn’t work. When he thinks about her, he starts to cry. He still wants her, even if it’s just to talk for a minute. He can’t get over her. I feel like a pale substitute for the love he once had. In fact, I don’t even think he loves me.
How do I help him overcome this? While I want him to love me, I more want him to be happy. If I could reconnect the two of them I would–even if that meant he left me for her. In fact, I want to take him to this country so that he can find her (or another girl he could love).
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