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meisabelep
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I feel terrible for not coming here in so long.

I feel bad whenever I think about it, but I’ve been fragile and I’ve been feeling good a lot - but it goes away easily. Sometimes the things that you say make me feel sorrow, because I feel for you. And sometimes they make me more aware of my own pain.

I’m going to try to get past that and remember how good it is that you are reaching out for help and how wonderful it is that there are so many people willing and trying to help.

I keep thinking on the negative side of things and I’m really trying to change that. I’m so sorry that I have been avoiding this website in part because of that.

The longer I waited, the worse I felt, and I had no idea what to say. I stress out about things like this, I’m a perfectionist, and it takes me so long because I know that nothing I say will be good enough.

I’m really, truly sorry, I’ll be busy, but I will try to make it up to you guys. I honestly care, and that may seem weird to a lot of people, but it’s true. I want you all to feel better.

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meisabelep changed the tags on this post: they were "Feel, lot, Feeling Good, Good Enough, Wonderful, like this, Terrible, Remember, negative, Fragile" 10 months, 1 week ago.

mindhealer offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 47 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 46 minutes after post)

It doesn’t seem weird to me. Very open and touching. But I think you should also try to find some of the people you’ve talked to more and invite them to this post so that can see you again.

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Always griffin offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (4 hours, 2 minutes after post)

Sending you a Gaint Cyber Hug,
it happens to me
i just walk away for a while & come back

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Savanna_ offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 35 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (4 hours, 14 minutes after post)

Hey, I read your comment. I’m glad that you’re working on art some more. Its a good way to take your mind off negative thoughts for a while. The posts here depress me too sometimes.. but why is it you don’t think your words are good enough? Whenever I read something you’ve written its obvious to me that you put a lot of thought and time into it. That you care. You shouldent feel sad about that. I’m glad you decided to come back to help. We should chat some more whenever you have the time.

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meisabelep offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 16 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (6 hours after post)

Thanks guys,
It’s mainly just now, there’s no excuse for avoiding this website. I spent hours on failblog, it just made me laugh and this made me sad, even though I enjoy helping people.

I do put a lot of thought into my replies, and it often takes way too long, which kinda sucks, but I don’t mind.

We should definitely talk some more, and anyone else who wants to talk, feel free to.. shout? not sure if that’s the write word.

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10 months, 1 week ago (18 hours, 17 minutes after post)

you dont have to use this site, its your own choice, noone is forcing you to and noone expects you to, it is of your own free will.

perfectionist? i am too, but writing something is better than writing nothing at all, right?

if this site makes you feel bad, then dont come here, there is lots of other people helping out too!

go back to failblog or whatever makes you happy. noone should be sad, and dont feel guilty! just enjoy life, and give what you feel you can personally.

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meisabelep offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 16 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 10 hours after post)

I enjoy it, I truly like helping people. I think one of the most important things is to feel connected. Many people come to this site for that, whether they know it or not.

It makes me feel good too. Hope that my words and advice can help someone. Hope for their happiness and wellbeing.

I’m going to try to balance them haha.

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Always griffin offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 18 hours after post)

You’re here now that’s what matters :)

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