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i don’t know how i can talk to my dad.
I’m 17 years old now and in the past few months i’ve realised how little i’ve ever seen of him. He, to this day, works alot. Since i can remember he’s worked nights, leaving at 6pm arriving back at 7am, to got to bed at 7:30 am, wake up at 12 for a cigerette and a cuppa(i’m at college at this time)back to bed, wake up at 4 scoff down dinner and leave at 5pm. This for 5 days a week, for at least 20 years. He’s not much of a social person either, keeps to himself as do i (right now i curse that he’s given me that gene; any time i try to spark up a conversation he assumes something must be wrong at college or i have issues to be discussed). I hate that i don’t know much about him but it’l be weird to straight of ask, what year were you born, do you have brothers & sisters, where do my grandparents live, who were you married to before mum etc etc.
Neither of us are very social people, we moan when we’re told to do this or do that or have to go to our sister’s house on boxing day(but they have 7 crazy kids in a terrace house, it’s understandable to complain). The only thing i can think of to get us into a situation where we can have a conversation is for me to start smoking and join him on the porch(not likely to happen anytime soon) or wait till next year and join him and mum in the pub (but i don’t want to start drinking)
I really don’t know how to get to him, neither of us talk about our hobbies, our day at college/work\(like father like daughter), he just sits there sipping a pint and i just sit her typing on Help.com. Has anyone else had this kind of trouble and got through it?
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