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He didn’t even say goodbye.
I was really close to this one guy. He knew I was supposed to leave. I was moving away. I knew he liked me. And he knew it was probably the last time he saw me. And he just walked away. Like a didn’t exist. Not a word in private. What’s up with that? It’s so not fair. Was it all a joke to him? Was I a joke? He later passed by when I was with friends and sort of gave a wink. That absolutely doesn’t justify it! He didn’t say anything…
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You are trying to interpret his actions by how you are feeling. That does neither you or your time together justice. Some people have a difficult time saying goodbye. So they just don’t. No need to take that as a judgement against you. It wasn’t.
Maybe he thinks it’s better this way.
So you don’t get so emotionally attached to him.
It’s possible that he likes you, but believe it’s better for the both of you.
In this case you can be happy to got rid of him, no?
Not shed a tear over such a dork!
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Either way, if he is a dork or if he was trying to spare us the pain - it just doesn’t feel right. Like I have unfinished business. And it feels sad.
maybe he was waiting for you to say something.
I wanted to say it first, I did! But it was like when I searched for his gaze, he looked away. When I wanted to get him alone, he was with friends and he seemed like he wanted to run away, literally. He was really jumpy. And I can’t say anything now because the day after that he went away for the summer :( It looks so stupid and silly right now!
well let it be a good memory for ya, and that’s all — time for your new adventure into the rest of your life, i find there are many people who just fall away, with no reason, but don’t let it throw you off course for the great things coming to you ~ E
Perhaps one day you will see him again and you two can talk like the old days :)
Do you have any of his contact information?
Maybe he felt that if the two of you were really that close, you wouldn’t be moving away.
I think I’m just hoping he cared for me like I did for him.
If you still have his contact information, you may want to talk to him.
I can’t tell you if he has feelings for you, but people come and go for a reason.
This isn’t your fault.
You’ve been friendly and open towards him.
It was his decision to avoid you.
Really, do you think this person is worthy?
It’s not fair that he’s ignored your feelings and left you in an empty state.
I suggest that if you really care about this person, try to talk to him.
However, it may be best just to let it go.
I think I’ll wait until he comes back from his trip and find him through our friends (it’s gonna take some digging) and try to bump into him. I don’t want him thinking I’m stalking him. I just need to set things straight before I leave.
I had this girlfriend once. She took a “job” that required her to move away. I figured that once she told me that, it was pretty much over. I figured she had already decided that on her own. Didn’t begrudge her in any way. She made a move that she thought was in the best interests of her career. Lost contact after that.
I think that’s what the guy feels . . . he feels that you weighed all of the considerations, and decided that your life would be better without him.
There’s really no other conclusion to draw, is there? If he were the most important person in your life, you wouldn’t be moving away from that person, would you?
Of course, you may not know if he’s the most important person in your life, or should be. I suppose you were moving to that decision point.
But he doesn’t know that.
I think you’re right. The worst thing is I actually asked for his opinion before I decided to leave. And he looked really stunned but said that I should go because it is a great opportunity for me. He encouraged me to do it even though I had my fair share of doubts.
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