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There’s this guy I like and I’m kind of in a tough spot.

Three summers ago, before my freshman year, I dated this guy and it lasted like two weeks… It ended really abruptly and kind of left me shattered. He was my first boyfriend and I was sure my world was ending. The worst part was, less than a month later he started dating one of my closest friends. She’d stopped talking to me shortly before they made their relationship public and really hasn’t talked to me since.

Then out of the blue last year he said he liked me again. It caught me off guard and I told him that I just didn’t want to make the same mistake we’d made two years earlier and ruin our friendship again.

Well, three months went by and we would text all the time and he would be really sweet and stuff, and he kind of won me over again.

But then he completely stopped texting me. Later on in the year, one of my friends told me that he had told her that he was annoyed with me and didn’t like me at all anymore.

So, here’s where my question comes. Next week i’m going on vacation with him and a bunch of other people. What should I do? Should I play cool or go after him? Thanks in advance!!!

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verge offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 134 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (2 minutes after post)

I don’t think you should go after him. In fact, I think you should definitely try avoiding him.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (2 minutes after post)

play cool gurl!!! show him you are happy and just fine and if he comes to you, only BARELY acknowledge him.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (2 minutes after post)

This guy is very, very immature. He doesn’t know what he wants. People who don’t know what they want can cause a lot of pain and grief for others.

He’s simply too emotionally immature to sustain a serious relationship. He’s as flighty as the flightiest girl.

Forget about him, and make other vacation plans if possible. But do NOT let him back into your life . . . because he’s trouble.

And, deep down, I think you know that!

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US | 10 months ago (2 hours, 5 minutes after post)

I’d definitely give up on him. He might be the kind of person who just enjoys the thrill of the chase and doesn’t want to “settle down” so to speak. Going back to him would be like giving him a third chance and it seems as though he hardly even deserved a second. If you truly value yourself then it be for the best to look for another guy.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (2 hours, 9 minutes after post)

I’ve thought about this some more. I think you would have very awkward and uncomfortable vacation with this turkey coming along . . . he’d make another play for you just to get you in the sack, and then drop you AGAIN.

But realize this: it’s not you, it’s this guy. He’s just too immature for a serious relationship–and probably too selfish, as well.

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