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General complaints…

I just have to get it out. I have been feeling mildly depressed and so has my husband. We are lonely. We had no friends to see tonight (Saturday) and discussed how we felt we were losers. We only have about two couples we hang around. One of them I can’t stand her husband. We found we also eat more when we are bored. We’re already very fat. We eat our pain. In High School every one told me that I would feel so much better in ten years but I’m 25 and my life is still s**t. I want to work but I’m disabled mentally. And it’s so hard. People think not working is like a vacation. It’s more like living in a cage. I have very limited understanding of how to use the computer even or any electronic because of my disability. And I can’t even drive. I have a lot of trouble doing simple things made worse by my weight. The pills I take are strong and have tons of side effects. Mostly they make me tired, and increase my appetite. I have to choose between my mental health and my regular health. I want to have children one day and be there at least until they grow up, but my husband told me today in the car today that he doesn’t care if he dies when he’s 40 and he’s 29. ):

If you read all this thank you sincerely for listening. If you have any helpful ideas please feel free to share them. I have posted before and getting a responses from this community helps me feel less alone.

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10 months ago (4 minutes after post)

Sounds like you’re both in a rut that you need to get out of. Are you able to take a holiday together? Away from your everyday lives? It should be a good way to start.

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An Undisclosed Location | 10 months ago (7 minutes after post)

You got to get up and be more active. Force yourself up, nothing’s going to change until you get up and do something. Be that change you want to see. Don’t even bother trying, just get up and do it, NOW!!! If you don’t do it now then you won’t do it so get up.

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The Sherlockian offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 39 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (7 minutes after post)

You’re in a rut. And from the way you composed your post, I could not think of you as “mentally disabled,” but as a bright young woman who expresses herself very clearly and succinctly.

Do not let others judge your potential by your limitations. I think that there are many things that you could do–job wise and otherwise.

Sit down with your husband and work on some mutual goals. For one thing, work together so both of you can lose weight. You’ll feel better, and you’ll stave off diabetes and other illnesses.

Have you and your husband ever thought about going to church? My own “roadmap for life” has heaven as my ultimate destination. I believe that you have to have God in your life. People who do are generally happier and live longer than those who don’t. And then there’s that whole thing about eternity . . . and where you’ll spend it.

I think you can do just about anything you want to. Throw off the shackles of self-doubt and do things you enjoy. And make your husband feel loved, appreciated and NEEDED. Show him ways to be your hero.

And start out on the journey of life together anew!

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