boyfriend help: i think i may have a problem….. - Help.com

well um…… heh……. thats weird…..

this is weird…..

So . . . you have parents, and he has parents, who are perfectly OK with the two of you sleeping together in his house. OK. Uh-huh.

And just by accident, you got that paper cut from a falling portrait.

And then you let him suck your blood quite often after that.

And he prefers to suck your blood as opposed of taking advantage of this situation and having sex with you.

OK . . . got it. You might want to cut and paste your post into a letter to Penthouse magazine. I don’t know about now, but they used to print weird stories like this. Either do that or develop this into a screenplay for a new vampire movie.

Because this is most definitely a work of fiction!

yes we both have parents O,o
yes they are okay with me spending nights with him because they trust him…
he sticks his paintings on the wall with spare tiny things of sticky tack and one of the decorations strung across the room on wires he was messing with made a drawing fall (from what i remmber)
then yes, i let him do that
he only prefers to drink as opposed to having sex with me because ive told him i dont want to do that with him and he respects that, obviously someone like you wouldent understand that sometimes you should listen to a girl

you can believe this is untrue all you want chev.jame i dont need your stamp of approval on my reality to make it true, now can someone here help me?

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Umm no that is definitely not normal. You may not like it but it is 100% neccesary to tell your parents and get professional help.

its not neccesary!
ive said this multiple times…. im fine with this, ive even done it to him
its not doing it that’s the problem, its that its become very important to him to drink and he seems to be drinking a little to much, other then that im perfectly fine with this

Umm… if the post is true then what’s going on is most likely two crazy people trying to figure out the emotion of closeness.
Cutting and drinking blood is not the answer, the right answer to be “you’re too young to start figuring out close relationhips, wait till you’re over 17-ish”. If he would have s3x with you, and you’re 14, it will be statutory rape - he’ll end up in jail and on s3x offenders list for life.
Also, on a side note, drinking blood is bad for both the drinker and the donor. Human stomach is not designed to digest blood, if it was then bleeding stomach ulcers wouldn’t be so dangerous. It slowly screws up your stomach and can eventually lead to gastrointestinal disfunctions. And the danger for the donor would be 1 - scarring, 2 - risk of infections, 3 - frequent blood loss can result in temporary anaemia, which is very bad for your still growing body; especially for your brain.
Anyways.
As kids (I mean I’m assuming that he’s a kid too) you’re both all emotion and less reason and understanding. Once a kid found a trigger that makes him happy he will abuse the trigger if no limit is imposed. In your case that trigger is blood and reward is closeness. Educate yourselves on how relationships work and how people express emotions and generate them. There are self help books for that, there is counseling sessions for that.

Anonymous wrote:
its not neccesary!
ive said this multiple times…. im fine with this, ive even done it to him
its not doing it that’s the problem, its that its become very important to him to drink and he seems to be drinking a little to much, other then that im perfectly fine with this

you should’n be fine this,if you love your boy friend try to prevent him from drinking blood because it causes kind of health disease,besides that it harms you too,this action causes you to lost your Iron.you shouldn’t be comfortable with this really big problem.end it Immediately otherwise you harm to yourself and him

thanks for that information .eli.!
il make sure to tell him of thoes risk’s X3
didint know there could be so many problems from just one thing O,o

and your right that it brings “closeness” it sorta gives us something to do that we depend on only eachother for. and as for “if he would have s3x with you, and you’re 14, it would be statutory rape - he’ll end up in jail and on a s3x offenders list for life.”
im aware of that
and we have never, and will not do anything like that for a long time to come….

(we are both the same age btw)

but im sure if i told him about thoe’s risk’s to both himself and me he would willingly give it up X3

thanks for that reply “.eli.”

Sounds like he has a blood fetish, which is fair enough, but you need to be assertive and take control, after all, this is your blood and your body he is using to get his kicks, not his own.

Also, if you plan to keep up with this kink in your relationship, you two should probably do some research into it, i’m sure there is an online community you can join or something, the main reason for doing so, would be to get advice and experience from those who know and have dealt with this for longer than both of you.

My biggest concern would be blood loss, you’d need to make sure you are regularly well fed and not dehydrated in order to keep your body having enough of a blood supply to avoid any accidents.

It sounds like he is actually pretty in control when it comes to it which is a pleasant surprise, you need to tell him what you told us, be open and honest with your concerns and go from there. Hopefully you two can continue as you have been just with a little less blood sharing, especially in awkward situations (like the party you mentioned).

I also have to say, that if your bf does indeed have a blood fetish, then what you are doing would be considered comparable, if not better than actual s e x for him, just thought you should be aware of that.

Finally, if anything goes wrong at any point, you need to bail, it is not worth risking your life no matter how much you love him.

Good Luck!

as for anonymous (whos comment should be directly above mine unless someone else commented)
it is sorta a blood fetish for him, and i think the earlier comment from “.eli.” has givin me enough information to tell andy, also.
you said quote “you need to tell him what you told us, be open and honest with your concerns and go from there”

i tell him everything, and even if i dont tell him there is a problem with something if he knows its bad for me he wont do it, hes very respectfull and unless i tell him he can drink he doesnt at all, he wont even argue with me thats just the end of the topic if i say no he takes it as no.

so “be open and honest with your concerns” its not that i have concerns about myself rather i dont want him to get addicted to it like (for example) how his father is addicted to smoking, i just feel like that would be a bit to much

but again “.eli.” has givin me enough info to take to andy and im sure without me even asking him to with the information that he could be hurting me would be enough for him to stop on his own. he refuses to do anything i either dont agree with or that wil cause me direct harm. (he hates prty much everything but me, so he cares about me more then anything and wont do anything i dont want him to do or that could have risk’s to me)

well…… i have to say this is a bit strange, altho i agree with most of the comments here….
eli has the point of health risk’s and an emotional reason why you do it
and the anonymous guy has the point of being carefull not to ruin your relationship with this. but from what you have said “andy” seems to be very protective of you and i doubt that, as you have said yourself. that if you told him about the health risk’s eli has explained to you that he would stop, again as you said. without you even asking him to.

but eh, good luck as the anon said.