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My friends don’t like my boyfriend!

I’m 27 and I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months. At first, things didn’t go so well and I often would get angry because he’d show up late to things. That’s a pet irritation of mine. Over time, though, I’ve noticed that he’s really the most sweet and gentle guy I’ve met. I’ve started to notice that I’m really happy around him, and he really takes care of me. I had been single for more than three years and it was really hard to think about giving up my independence, but I’ve realised that I don’t have to do that with him.
The only problem is that I’ve been telling my friends whenever anything bad happens between us. I’m up to the stage where I’m not allowed to talk about him because I’ve b****ched about him so much. My friends are like my family to me–I’ve lived on the other side of the world with these girls, we’re so close we could hang out naked and it wouldnt be weird. So I really respect their opinions and I’m worried that they perhaps see something in him that I don’t. Or that they will never like him, and I will drift apart from them.
Despite our initial problems, I do see a future with my boyfriend but I don’t want it to cost my relationship with my friends. I should note that it’s only a couple of my close girl friends that don’t like him. Most of my friends do. But then, it’s only really my close girl friends who I talk about him with.
Please help! I want my friends to see my boyfriend the way I see him. Am I blinded by love or should I ignore them?

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My friends don’t like my boyfriend! I’m 27 and I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months. At first, things didn’t go so well and I often would get angry because he’d show up late to things. That’s a pet irritation of mine. Over time, though, I’ve noticed that he’s really the most sweet and gentle guy I’ve met. I’ve started to notice that I’m really happy around him, and he really takes care of me.
The only problem is that I’ve been telling my friends whenever anything bad happens between us. I’m up to the stage where I’m not allowed to talk about him because I’ve b****ched about him so much. My friends are like my family to me, and I’m worried that they perhaps see something in him that I don’t. Or that they will never like him, and I will drift apart from them.
Despite our initial problems, I do see a future with my boyfriend but I don’t want it to cost my relationship with my friends. I should note that it’s only a couple of my close girl friends that don’t like him. Most of my friends do. But then, it’s only really my close girl friends who I talk about him with.
Please help! I want my friends to see my boyfriend the way I see him. Am I blinded by love or should I ignore them?

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.Eli. offline Verified User (3 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (26 minutes after post)

You’re behaving like a typical human, nothing abnormal, everybody is doing it - complain about their boyfriends/girlfriends/work/family to their friends. If they don’t mention anything good inbetween rants about little things then friends get the picture that the things you’re talking about are making you miserable.
Simply start mentioning the good that has been happening and your friends will change their perspective. Because all they know about these things is only what you tell them.

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M8R-feyst offline Verified User (10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months ago (1 hour, 33 minutes after post)

I agree with .Eli., tell your friends about the good too. Maybe have everyone hang out together more (if possible) so your friends see how nice your boyfriend actually is.

Our group didn’t like my friend’s boyfriend initially because like you, she was always telling us when bad stuff happens. Eventually, over a period of time and getting to know him better after hanging out together in groups, we realised he was actually quite a nice person and treats her well even though there are some things about him she doesn’t like.

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hannahlovesbieber9 offline Verified User (10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (5 hours, 28 minutes after post)

If you love him, you have to think about yourself and not your friends.

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mintra offline Verified User (3 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (7 hours, 44 minutes after post)

He sound great, my guess is that he has mild sleep apnea, this makes people late, but nice and laid back.

Re girl friends, they will get used to him as they start to see you are serious, so best start to ***** about someone else with them, as a surrogate for boyfriend ********.

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