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Me and my boyfriend have been together on and off for 4 years. He just told me that next year he’s thinking of going to camp America for 4months. I can’t do long relationship and i don’t think he can either. But i dont want to loose him and i have soo much going on at home that i cant leave the country.. What should i do? It feels as if our relationship now has a end date. :(

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cero offline Verified User (10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (11 minutes after post)

why does he want to go?

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10 months ago (15 minutes after post)

He Went there before we met, and said it was the best experience of his life and now the people he met when he was last over there have decided to have a reunion next year

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cero offline Verified User (10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (19 minutes after post)

tell him you don’t want him to go, and if it’s all worth it, you guys will work something out, where you just wait till he comes back

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months ago (22 minutes after post)

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SlightlyUnique offline Verified User (4 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months ago (44 minutes after post)

If you have been on/off for four years then you apparently aren’t ready to commit/settle down.

Therefore, I would say - let him go. The time apart may be what you BOTH need to sort your heads out and either make it work properly, or draw a line and both move on.

On/off again relationships are messed up and only cause damage i’m afraid. Use the time apart to clear your head.

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IrAdler offline Verified User (4 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months ago (4 hours, 16 minutes after post)

On and off means you were not meant to be together. End it and move on.

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