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I’m so lost :( Hii guys, alright so this may be a little

long but i’ll try make it as simple as possible and I really need everyone’s opinion on this because i got told that i was the right one in this situation but i don’t understand what i did wrong in the first place. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 months and we’re both 16. Everything was going so well today and i really feel close to him and he means a lot to me and it would hurt to be without him. I was texting him tonight and we talked about how he is going to meet my dad next week :). He kept asking me why my dad is so over-protective and i told my boyfriend that my dad can get jealous sometimes because im his only child and he doesn’t want me to get hurt. Just like any father out there, they wouldn’t stand it if their little girl got hurt.. i tried to explain the way my dad feels to my boyfriend and he got upset because i said “u won’t understand exactly what im talking about because ur a son, and it’s different for a daughter”. I didn’t mean to offend him or anything

:( i was only stating my opinion and my boyfriend replied saying, “Im pretty sure that’s not the cause because why would my parents be jealous? they would want the best for me and to be happy even if i were a girl. It also kinda hurt me a bit when you said I would’nt understand cause i’m a boy :(”. First of all, i wasn’t even talking about his parents and second of all I wasn’t being rude to him because i wanted him to know that it’s different to be in my shoes because non of his parents care if he’s going out with me. I’m such a stubborn girl and i’m very sensible :( and i would never mean to hurt anyone on purpose so I got REALLY upset and now i don’t want to talk to him because i never open my mouth whenever he jokes around and hurts my feelings yet he complains about the smallest deal. Please help me ? :( i don’t know what to do and I told him i was very sorry many times! although now he keeps saying he loves me but i’m still angry at him? because he ruined my night! and now i feel like crap!

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monkichirmo offline Verified User (3 years, 12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (23 minutes after post)

1- there’s no reason why you should ‘never open my mouth’ whenever he jokes around and hurts your feelings. and if you choose to do that…own it. don’t blame it on him nor throw it in his face. it was your choice, he had nothing to do with it.
2- you apologized and it’s all good now supposedly. so let it be good. he got over it(and he’s the one whom was ‘hurt’!), why can’t you. it’s not that serious.
3- since you’re not a guy nor a parent you have no idea how he or his parents would feel. don’t ever tell anyone ‘you don’t understand ’cause XXXXX’ since in reality you’re really you have no way of knowing that.

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waterdemonsakera offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (24 minutes after post)

Well from the looks of it he just took it the wrong way. I understand that it’s a different kind of protecting parents do for their son or daughter. But if this frustrates you due to the fact you never say anything then tell him when he’s hurting your feelings. I’m sure he’ll back off and understand if you tell him that.

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roxygir offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (28 minutes after post)

thanks guys but i’ts not about me not telling him whenever he hurts me.. the problem is he needs to grow up and he shouldn’t of made it a big deal because i had my own opinion and he didn’t support it :/ he always tries to make me look the the bad one and feel guilty.

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monkichirmo offline Verified User (3 years, 12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (1 hour, 17 minutes after post)

if he always tries to make you the ‘bad one’ and/or feel guilty, not to mention you stick around and take it….that doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship to me, personally.

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