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i’m moving soon, and for some reason all this anxiety is coming up.

and now i don’t want to leave because of my sister.

is this just pre-move stress? because i keep thinking about leaving and not saying a word, and i’m okay with that, but thinking about telling her i’m moving (i’m sure my mother has already told her) is just throwing me off the edge and i can’t deal with it.

i almost want to stay and not move at all, but it’s been so crazy over the years with my other siblings and my mother, and i haven’t said much to her these past few months.

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verge offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 134 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (32 minutes after post)

Communication is very important. You should talk to your sister. Be honest with her. Tell her why you want to leave if she asks. Be firm with your decision to leave, if that is what you really want. You seemed like you really wanted to leave before. If you think it will make you happy, go. Forget the guilt, just be truthful and unshakeable. Don’t avoid talking or thinking about the issues involved with your decision to move, but don’t let anyone make your decision for you. This is about you trying to do something to improve your life and be happy.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (2 hours, 43 minutes after post)

No matter how much we hate it, sometimes we have to do things for our own good. I haven’t talked to some of my relatives for years and I have plenty of good reasons not to. Some of them are nice to each other during gatherings but I know for a fact that those who are best buddies backstab each other (and everyone else for that matter) at every opportunity. It’s pretty toxic tbh and I don’t enjoy it one bit. If you feel like you don’t wanna talk to her then just leave a note and if she really loves you, she’d make an effort to get in touch with you one way or another (maybe thru email, facebook, or otherwise). I don’t know what happened between you two but if you think you have a really good reason not to talk to her, then don’t. It’ll just make it worse than it already is. Trust me, TIME’s gonna take care of it. If you really care about one another then you’ll somehow patch it up sooner or later. I haven’t talked with my backstabbing relatives for almost 5 years and I’m perfectly okay with that. For one thing, they didn’t annoy me during the holidays. For another thing I don’t get upset anymore whenever I find out that they sniped about me behind my back. And for still another thing, I’m living a stess-free life with all of them at arms length. Hope this helps. :)

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An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (12 hours, 37 minutes after post)

thank you both! and thank you again verge

i just feel so much better about leaving and not saying a thing, but i feel like maybe i should say something. i still have a bit more time to think

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10 months ago (13 hours, 24 minutes after post)

I personally would just move and not say anything negative. If you do say something phrase it in a way that says “The things you people do make me feel depressed and sad”
something like that. So it’s not accusatory just stating how their actions make you feel.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (14 hours, 44 minutes after post)

No problem :)

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