My sister is in a long-distance relationship.
She met a guy (I’ll call him Irish) when she worked at a phone shop roughly 2 years ago. They got along really well but sister was in a comitted relationship at the time so it didn’t progress. Irish ended up leaving to Ireland for his studies. He’s in his second last year currently doing a work placement training to be a mechanical engineer.
Long story short they started dating about 4 months ago. Sister lives with me currently in Scotland. The journey there takes about 7 hours so 14 hours there and back. In the beginning sister was happy but only very recently has she been having doubts about their relationship. She has discovered that Irish is VERY image focused. He has made comments about food she has eaten (chastizing her for having some chocolate and a pizza at a friend’s place). Not only that but he has been emotionally cold with her because he had a bad experience with his ex. He doesn’t compliment her, and deliberately remains emotionally aloof because he “doesn’t want to get hurt”. All of this as well as the distance has taken a toll on my sister who already has insecurities.
She is depressed, we have all noticed it (my mum, boyfriend, everybody). But despite all this she won’t leave him. I told her why be with somebody if it makes you depressed? To which she answers “I want to see how things go. I really like him”. Yet she was ready to leave him days ago.
She seems to take things on a day to day basis with him but nothing changes and her moods are constantly up and down. Advice?
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