college help: How can I find something, that will keep me going on, that will keep my “inner fire” burning.

skorci31

How can I find something, that will keep me going on, that will keep my “inner fire” burning.

I’m 20 years old student on Technical University, i study informatics, although i don’t really have any big interest in it. I’m good at learning languages, i’m really good with pc, can cook and i’m pretty skillful with repairing anything that you can find in the regular house :D
My problem is, lately i’m just surviving from one day to another. I could say, that i live, just because i didn’t die. There is nothing that “inspires” me to live. Nothing to look forward to next day.
I really liked drawing, but i just can’t push myself to do it, because: i’m kinda scared from how will people around look at me, and i’m really far from good, which kinda turns my passion off.
I don’t really like any kind of sports, but i do a bit of in-line skating.

I just spend one year of my life, doing nothing. It angers me. But at the same time, i can’t do much about it. One day i’m burning with passion, doing something really eagerly, but then it stops for month or so…
Maybe i didn’t find the right thing to try it, or i just don’t have right people around (i get easily influenced by people living with me, i’m pretty sure that if my roommate (i live at college) was drawing, i would draw too, and so on with many other things…).

Please, give me some advice, what can i try doing, to change my life. To start going on again.

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Zirbel 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 4 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

“How to Develop a Self Motivation Mindset”:
http://www.personal-goal-setting.com/…

Self Motivation Skills:
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Self Motivation Strategies:
http://www.selfmotivationstrategies.c…

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skorci31 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 4 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

Wow, thank you for fast and big response!
Guess i have enough reading for the rest of the day :D

Help me with: I need help with problem similar to severe apathy.

mintra 2 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 4 weeks ago (38 minutes after post)

Two things helped me with this.

1) Serious life threatening illness

2) Arrogance.

Lets assume 1) is not on the cards.

You must not case what other people think about you. You are trapped because your measure of success is what other people think.

This is not your fault, the whole education system damages people into thinking that the judgement of others is all that matters.

Truth is that anything takes a life of its own, as the world is full of so much stuff, you really can not afford to waste any more time.

My quest is for total knowledge, that is to know everything.

Not so difficult, as the way peoples mind work is quite narrow.

Please assume that now you have been handed control of your life and that you can just get on with it without paying attention to others.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 4 weeks ago (39 minutes after post)

Well, now that i run through those sites, they are basically exactly same and except from a good read, they didn’t really help me out much :D Thought site with self motivation skills is kinda interesting, and i guess i will keep reading that one for some time ;)

I’m still open to any advices, suggestions, or personal stories :)

Help me with: I need help with problem similar to severe apathy.

red fox 22 #
Mount Laurel, NJ, US | 9 months, 4 weeks ago (2 hours, 3 minutes after post)

Heyo! Here’s my personal story for you….There’s a funny way that I can relate and have been dealing with the same issues for a long-*** time.

I’ve never been good at sports and I’ve been searching for that passion just like you. I’ve always considered myself an artist. I used to draw a lot, but being a realist, I was never very good…I couldn’t pick up on those cool comic-styles, some shading, etc….Eventually, I got into film-making, because it was different. I was pretty good. We made some films that looked like something you’d see on TV for $0…but there’s a lot of good film-makers out there, so I never really felt like it was “my thing” and was still discouraged…felt like it didn’t even matter if I was good at it or not, because so many other people out there were just as good or better, and so many guys had multi-million dollar budgets and here I am working with peanuts and coffee.

So my search continued…I got into 3D animation, graphic design, photography, painting, architecture, sculpting in clay, metal-crafting, wire sculpture, singing, guitar playing, car-building, script-writing, novel writing, etc, etc….and I seriously put a lot of effort (and $$) into each. I made at least 3 attempts per new idea. Nothing really drove me….so all of it kind-of fell by the wayside. I got real discouraged, lost my passion in life and felt stuck….

To make a long story longer….one day I went to an arts festival. I picked out some works that inspired me and one of those was wood carving. I tried that and I made some cool stuff…but again…it’s something that a lot of people were good at, so it was like..all right, I can do this well, but so what…And then I had an idea….since I used to do metal-crafting, I thought it would be cool to incorporate that into the wood-work in some way…like making copper inlays and such. As it turns out, it was pretty cool. Plus, I’ve never seen a wood/copper sculpture before……and it really revived me. I can be one of the best because there’s probably only like 6 people out there that do that kind of thing.

But in the end, I’m still not the best wood-carving dude out there….and then I realized something…it doesn’t matter…My whole motivation was to find something that I can do for me, not something other people need to like. I was looking for validation of my work in everyone else’s eyes…when that’s not what really matters….because I don’t need to please everyone else…I just need to do something that I love doing. If you keep that mind-set strong, then it doesn’t matter if you’re good or not….all that will matter is that you do this to bring out the passion in life and keep a creative outlet. If it turns out you’re awesome at it, then so be it. If you really do want to please other people as well, then keep looking for something that you have natural talent in. It might be doing a bunch of little things and seeing what turns out good before you go invest a lot of money in that. But try different things….go to an arts fest and get involved in something.

Once you find that passion, it can be great…but in the meantime enjoy your journey to discovery. Try to think of it as an adventure and not a burden, not like you’re stuck! There will be tons of crazy things you can do to keep you moving!

Hope that helps inspire you some ;)

Heyo! Here's my personal story for you....There's a funny way that I can relate and have been dealing with the same issues for a long-*** time.

I’ve never been good at sports and I’ve been searching for that passion just like you. I've always considered myself an artist. I used to draw a lot, but being a realist, I was never very good...I couldn't pick up on those cool comic-styles, some shading, etc….Eventually, I got into film-making, because it was different. I was pretty good. We made some films that looked like something you’d see on TV for $0…but there’s a lot of good film-makers out there, so I never really felt like it was “my thing” and was still discouraged…felt like it didn’t even matter if I was good at it or not, because so many other people out there were just as good or better, and so many guys had multi-million dollar budgets and here I am working with peanuts and coffee.

So my search continued…I got into 3D animation, graphic design, photography, painting, architecture, sculpting in clay, metal-crafting, wire sculpture, singing, guitar playing, car-building, script-writing, novel writing, etc, etc….and I seriously put a lot of effort (and $$) into each. I made at least 3 attempts per new idea. Nothing really drove me….so all of it kind-of fell by the wayside. I got real discouraged, lost my passion in life and felt stuck….

To make a long story longer….one day I went to an arts festival. I picked out some works that inspired me and one of those was wood carving. I tried that and I made some cool stuff…but again…it’s something that a lot of people were good at, so it was like..all right, I can do this well, but so what…And then I had an idea….since I used to do metal-crafting, I thought it would be cool to incorporate that into the wood-work in some way…like making copper inlays and such. As it turns out, it was pretty cool. Plus, I’ve never seen a wood/copper sculpture before……and it really revived me. I can be one of the best because there’s probably only like 6 people out there that do that kind of thing.

But in the end, I’m still not the best wood-carving dude out there….and then I realized something…it doesn’t matter…My whole motivation was to find something that I can do for me, not something other people need to like. I was looking for validation of my work in everyone else’s eyes…when that’s not what really matters….because I don’t need to please everyone else…I just need to do something that I love doing. If you keep that mind-set strong, then it doesn’t matter if you’re good or not….all that will matter is that you do this to bring out the passion in life and keep a creative outlet. If it turns out you’re awesome at it, then so be it. If you really do want to please other people as well, then keep looking for something that you have natural talent in. It might be doing a bunch of little things and seeing what turns out good before you go invest a lot of money in that. But try different things….go to an arts fest and get involved in something.

Once you find that passion, it can be great…but in the meantime enjoy your journey to discovery. Try to think of it as an adventure and not a burden, not like you’re stuck! There will be tons of crazy things you can do to keep you moving!

Hope that helps inspire you some ;)

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