life help: I cannot go on with my life if I have to live alone. - Help.com

no it’s not hopeless. if you think your life suck, here’s mine:

i’m 32, i have NO friends at all. i have not been on a date for the past one year. everybody that i got in-touch online only wants to sleep with me (it’s not just the US that’s having drought right now :p). the fact that i work from home and don’t go out and socialize a lot does not help. to top that, i have asperger’s syndrome (high functioning autism) which makes things even more difficult.

yeah i’ve been depressed and all but i think there’s still hope. just don’t give up. i’m not.

yeah, i’ve been misunderstood a lot. a lot of people don’t understand that people with asperger’s syndrome process things a differently then neurotypicals, even though we are known to have normal to higher IQ. but we are known to be ’socially awkward’ :P

it’s really hard to understand everybody around you. but what you can do is try to understand yourself. it takes some time and work. i have both a psychiatrist and clinical psychologist that helps me with my asperger’s (and adhd).

why not take this time to get to know yourself a bit better. learn more about yourself and your expectations.

if you wanna feel much better you can take a view at these:
how to have hope in life:
http://www.wikihow.com/Have-Hope
how to live a hopeful life:
http://www.ehow.com/how_5204972_be-ho…
how to handle loneliness:
http://www.everydayhealth.com/emotion…
how to make a better life:
http://www.dragosroua.com/100-ways-to…
i hope these help
Good luck

I’ve been single for abt 15 yrs now. Got my dog, hobbies, and travels to keep me occupied. Also, no stressful relationship to prematurely age me and can do whatever I want.

cvl12345 wrote:
Hey, oh your life sounds familiar! I am 30, and haven’t been in real relationship for more than 5 years. I started looking for dates online, and even the ones who wanted to sleep with me stopped seeing me after two times. I have depression, but I think I also have some kind of developmental disorder because I have no idea what other people are saying sometimes or I cannot understand why so many people behave so stupid and then tell me I am the one who is stupid. I really want to give up. I just waste people’s tax or something.

I guess it’s your attitude which deters people from going closer to you.
It could be helpful for you to make a group therapy for realizing how you interact with others and to change your behavior in the right direction.

Well, as some wise human being once told me, life only suck if you believe it does. How do you define a perfect life? If you think a “perfect life” is whatever you see on TV then you have a very long way to go. I’m 31 and I never had a romantic relationship in my entire life. Not because nobody likes me or something but because I’m asexual and I’m also an introvert. I mean, why would I even date or get into a relationship if it’s something that I’m not really into? It kinda defeats the purpose if you get what I mean.

My first advice to you is to spend time with yourself. Be your own best friend. I know a lot of people might think that it’s such a pathetic choice but think about this: a lot of people who say such things actually can’t stand being with themselves. You’d think they don’t like themselves at all. I know some people who get sad whenever no one replies to their facebook post lol. Yeah, some people are that needy. Think about what you really want in life. If you are so desperate to be with anyone then I shudder to think who you might end up with just for the sake of not being alone. Putting yourself out there doesn’t mean you have to go on dates and and spend most of the evenings in bars. Do something that really inspires you: you might want to get involved in some activities like being a volunteer or something. Whatever you do, make sure you enjoy it and you’re having a blast. Remember, love comes when you least expect it.

Hope this helps. ;)