friends help: I really want to know how not to be an outcast. - Help.com

Can you give some examples of situations where you feel perceived as an outcast? Tell it in a descriptive way.

The thing I have always noticed that might be a start is to be interesed in co-workes or neighbors. That is the key to being perceived as interesting. Give it a try.

how to fit in - make freinds…simple. And do things that friends do together..like party, trip, movies. Honestly in our group even if some untalkative ones joins in, nobody cares that much. I mean it looks like you are being overly self conscious (all the me and I) and blowing things out of proprtion in your heads. People ,usually don’t f*** about you that much. I mean they do care but not like f***, shes such a weirdo.

I guess you should just boost your very low self-esteem!
 
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You have to force yourself to join in. Even just be there when people are talking and say ‘yea’ and nod

I am oneof those people too, I just have no idea how to fit in. As uncomfortable as it may make you, you just need to be there. include yourself. and take up any invitation offered to you :)

Zerbil I don’t have a specific situation. I’m just being myself and I notice that ppl perceive me as an outcast. They basically sometimes ask me questions like why are you tensed or why are you not easy going. And yes I have a very low self esteem but I don’t show it to people! Help me and shower me with tips about how not to leave that impression! I swear I don’t know why they’re getting it! What do you think? And how should I behave to avoid such a judgement?

I’ve felt like this all my life, you can’t force yourself to fit in where you don’t it’s like trying to put a piece of a jigsaw puzzle together that is the wrong shape. You’ve just got to learn and acknowledge that A) you are different B) there’s nothing wrong with that and C) most of the popular happy people have more ****** up issues then say those who are considered outcasts. Most popular people I’ve know have had so much drama, upset, and things go wrong in their life it’s ridiculous, popularity is like a drug and you can lose yourself in it. Just be yourself and don’t think about what anyone else thinks, it’s your life and you are who you are don’t change who you are just to please others.

Anonymous wrote:
And yes I have a very low self esteem but I don’t show it to people! Help me and shower me with tips about how not to leave that impression!

Since you HAVE a low self-esteem you show it AUTOMATICALLY to people. It’s that simple.
(Study carefully the given link above.)