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try waiting for her to text you first or something.. or talk to her about it, she will understand. If shes shy she might be worried about the ideas she has or not want to bug you with texts etc.

if she’s shy, then she’s probably too timid to do all those things first. Just hand over the reigns slowly and let things happen. Don’t force anything on her or shove things in her face, or that will mess up your relationship.
Just let her plan a few dates from start to finish, or talk to her about it. But don’t use the term “spoil”, that would imply that she is spoiled, and when people hear that they typically think it’s negative. And that would insult her.
I mean, if you wanted to act maturely, that is.

A relationship is about two halfs,give&take.
Its her time to give.

A lot of girls don’t text or call first because they’re told not to by other women. Sometimes the advice given is that if you text/call first, your man will think you’re needy.

Also, I agree with this:

Allthemessylove. wrote:
if she’s shy, then she’s probably too timid to do all those things first. Just hand over the reigns slowly and let things happen. Don’t force anything on her or shove things in her face, or that will mess up your relationship.
Just let her plan a few dates from start to finish, or talk to her about it. But don’t use the term “spoil”, that would imply that she is spoiled, and when people hear that they typically think it’s negative. And that would insult her.
I mean, if you wanted to act maturely, that is.

You’re not “spoiling” her. You’re treating her as a boyfriend should! You should be doing these things because you want to, not because you feel like you’re “supposed to”.

She sounds fine to me. I have dated girls back in the day who were not allowed to call boys and stuff like that before cell phones were around. It used to be normal that guys had to do the calling and the chasing. As long as she’s not cheating on you, you can’t ask for much more. When’s the wedding?

Ask her what she wants to do/where she wants to go. Help her plan something and she’ll get the hand of doing it herself.

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