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It sounds like you’re just meeting the wrong men.

nooni wrote:
are all the men in the world wrong ? i’ve been though so much lately i swear its just too much and its starting to effect my personality

No, believe it or not, all the men in the world are not wrong. I have met several decent guys.

Maybe its time to think outside of the box and go for someone different. Start slow and deal with the pain before venturing out.

Don´t blame men for your own shortcomings.

Perhaps the reason you’re attracting the type of guys you are is because of your attitude. If you weren’t so negative guys you find appealing would feel the same way about you.

nooni wrote:

Grim_Hardcastle wrote:
Don´t blame men for your own shortcomings.

what do u mean by shortcomings ??? and i dont blame any one i just blame those who hurt me when i didnt deserve to be hurt ..

You walked into it believing it was something it was not. There´s your shortcoming as your illusions surpass the reality. There are lessons in this to teach you what´s important.

Pink Freud wrote:
Perhaps the reason you’re attracting the type of guys you are is because of your attitude. If you weren’t so negative guys you find appealing would feel the same way about you.

I think so too.
Seems that you have a magnetic personality just in the way, that you attract always the wrong type of men.
 
Have a look at this:
• “Are You Attracted to the Wrong Type?”: http://www.eharmony.com/dating-advice…
• “How to Stop Attracting the Wrong Kind of Men - Get the Man You Want”: http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Stop…
• “How to Attract Better Men”: http://www.wikihow.com/Attract-Better…

I don’t know about all guys, but a lot of men are pretty straight-forward. The easiest thing to do is ask them how they feel. Most guys won’t just tell you that….so you have to ask….

And there’s plenty of guys out there who are not in a relationship, married, or dead.

Also, saying you don’t want to get married and that falling in love is a waste of time, and that you don’t want a relationship but then saying that you want to find a good guy is really flawed logic. Of course you will NOT find a good guy with this mindset….you’ll only find guys who feel the same way about love as you do.

It seems to me, you may have some issues letting go. In a loving relationship, no one deserves to be hurt….but living life is not about what you deserve, it’s about what you get. Some people just get sunk…but you can’t blame “men, God, your mom, the stars, other people etc, etc…” for life not being perfect, or you will ALWAYS come up short….because you have no control over other people, you only have control over yourself. So instead of trying to focus your issues on what others are doing wrong, see if there is anything you can improve in yourself. The reason this works is because you CAN improve yourself, but not other people. Does that make sense?

I agree, life is complicated and strange and mostly unfair…but if you are good at playing cards, then you’re good at working with the cards you’re dealt. You might not “win” in life, but you’ll play a **** good game :)

I feel the same way. The idea of marriage and kids, even a long term relationship is hell to me. It’s strange coz I’ve only ever had like one boyfriend lol and we weren’t even serious but I think once you experience that hurt of being dumped of all the good times that you shared with that person, all the planning, all the dizzying high emotions and low ones all being thrown out the window by a simple “I’m sorry but I don’t think is gonna work out” it’s pretty ****. It sounds like you’ve just experienced that kick in the stomach heartache feeling like a lot of girls have and you’re just fed up with feeling it, but given time your wounds will heal and you will meet someone worth meeting :) it’s like they say you have to kiss a few frogs before you get to your prince lol i know that sounds lame but you know what i mean.

nooni wrote:
thank u guys but i think that trentlover is the most one who feels me .. but red fox ur right i think i need to change am just soo fed up ..

You’re welcome for the advice hun just enjoy the single life, go out with your mates and live it up worry about a man later lol :)