boyfriend help: Me and my bf have been dating for a year and 2 months.

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Me and my bf have been dating for a year and 2 months.

He says that he wants to be a psychologist… But he can hardly stand when I have anything negative to say. And I don’t complain or talk negatively very often. Sometimes I just need someone to vent to after I have had a bad day. And when I start to do that he just shuts me off and tells me I am complaining too much. I really don’t mean to complain. I try my very hardest not to. He is supposed to be the one that I can go to right? And I want you all to know that I really DO NOT complain often at all. But I just don’t understand how he could possibly become a psychologist if he can hardly stand my occasional negativity.

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phoenix.j.ryde 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

maybe he has a bad day himself listening to peoples problems and the last thing he wants to hear is more complains. maybe instead of trying to vent, ask him how was his day and stuff. but not like as soon as he gets back. give him some time to relax and chill. then just sit down and just make it like a normal conversation.

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IrAdler 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (49 minutes after post)

Offer him payment for listening to your complaints, after all, it is going to be a paid job for him where he would have to listen to complaints whether he would like it or not. Tell him it is a practise for him.

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alatif 17 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 14 minutes after post)

He’s controlling you. Either he accepts what you have to say and listens or he finds another girlfriend with a different personality to you.
It’s crazy that you can’t express an opinion that is contrary to what he thinks is positive or negative speak.
Seriously, if being around him you have to think before you speak move on.
You sound like a lovely caring sensitive girl and you deserve a boyfriend who will love you and accept you regardless of whether you complain or not (afterall that isn’t the issue, the issue is his responses to you.)

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mintra 2 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 24 minutes after post)

Actually “negative” can be very positive.

It is when someone is monochromatic, that is always negative, that it would be an issue.

I sort of agree with alatif.

Put your foot down

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Araz 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 26 minutes after post)

Completely agree with Alatif.

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An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (4 hours, 30 minutes after post)

why don’t you tell him this?

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Dr. Ralph 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (4 hours, 40 minutes after post)

Tell him if he really wants to be a psychologist he should listen to you and tell you how to deal with your stress. I have a feeling he will not be a very good psychologist…

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Anonymous #
10 months, 3 weeks ago (2 days, 2 hours after post)

get a new boyfriend if he can’t listen to you?

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