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I just want to talk to her again

It’s been almost a year since we were together, but a year that is spent seeing each other 5 days of the week. We broke up because she felt things wouldn’t work between us. We grew real close, even after, and still continued to date after it was clear “just friends” wasn’t going to happen. We began to fight a lot though, and she eventually told me to just leave her alone. I did just that, and this upset her. So what really wasn’t a “leave me alone” turned into just that. Ever since then it’s been a roller coaster of acting like the other doesn’t exist, to subtle cat and mouse. The two most notable moments when we were actually starting to talk again, she pushed me away saying she can’t trust me (supposedly I was talking badly about her to others, and no I wasn’t). I grew a pair and apologized to her. Not for what I was accused of, but just for hurting her. This seemed to smooth the waters and we were actually talking again. It didn’t last and now she won’t even say “hello” back to me. All I get is her glancing at me whenever she thinks I won’t notice.

I’m just tired of it all. I’m going to just give up and focus on this new woman I’ve started to see, but it feels so wrong to do that. I finally managed to just let most of it go, to stop over analyzing every little detail, and to stop thinking about it 24/7. Now though, all that remains is this stupid tingly feeling whenever I do think of her.

I just don’t know anymore. I don’t know if she really does just hate me, or if she’s scared of her feelings for me. Maybe she could even want me to just really fight for her again. Like the way I used to before all of our fighting began and I just gave up. With all the mixed feelings of anger and confusion gone, I can honestly say that now I just miss her, so much. It truly is torture seeing her every single day, acting like I’m perfectly fine doing it, and acting like she doesn’t matter to me.

I’m sorry if this is pathetic. I know it is… I just needed to get this off of my chest.

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Shigaku 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

You have to observe the end of the relationship, you and her.

I’m doing the same thing right now with mine.

But it’s not pathetic. I feel the same way. It’s only been what, 3 days since I broke up? And already, I want to see her.

But I would say leaving her alone, utterly cutting all contact, and turning over a fresh leaf and finding something to occupy your time would be much more beneficial then to try to re-live a moment in time that has already overstayed it’s welcome.

You have to observe the end of the relationship, you and her. I'm doing the same thing right now with mine. But it's not pathetic. I feel the same way. It's only been what, 3 days since I broke up? And already, I want to see her. But I would say leaving her alone, utterly cutting all contact, and turning over a fresh leaf and finding something to occupy your time would be much more beneficial then to try to re-live a moment in time that has already overstayed it's welcome.

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Positivemessylove 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

it isn’t pathetic to get things off your chest. you have emotions and need to get them out, that isn’t pathetic at all.
pathetic is seeing the problem and not trying to fix it.

Dwelling on something that you shouldn’t, or someone, that’s easy to do.
But if you need to get over her, then that’s what you need to do. If you need to talk to her, then just talk to her.

If your past relationship is affecting new ones, than that is probably serious, and you need to get over that first girl fast.
let the past be the past, try to let things go, seek closure if you want to, but just understand that moving forward is the best option for you. you can’t change the way things were but you can always start something new.

it isn't pathetic to get things off your chest. you have emotions and need to get them out, that isn't pathetic at all. pathetic is seeing the problem and not trying to fix it. Dwelling on something that you shouldn't, or someone, that's easy to do. But if you need to get over her, then that's what you need to do. If you need to talk to her, then just talk to her. If your past relationship is affecting new ones, than that is probably serious, and you need to get over that first girl fast. let the past be the past, try to let things go, seek closure if you want to, but just understand that moving forward is the best option for you. you can't change the way things were but you can always start something new.

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cero 5 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (31 minutes after post)

sounds like classic borderline personality disorder to me “get away from me i hate you! no don’t leave me! YOU’RE MINE” she can’t get too close and when she does she pulls back

sounds like classic borderline personality disorder to me "get away from me i hate you! no don't leave me! YOU'RE MINE" she can't get too close and when she does she pulls back

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Dr. Ozy 39 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (35 minutes after post)

you need to just let it go. it is NEVER going to work. stop wasting your time on the past. you’re too young for that.

you need to just let it go. it is NEVER going to work. stop wasting your time on the past. you're too young for that.

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