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So i have a problem.

i hate getting into relationships but i enjoy the whole courtship period. And mostly i fall for people when i know its a challenge. i think i enjoy the chase. But i always stop before it gets too serious and try my best to not let the other person down. recently an ex of mine got back in touch after 3 long years and he’s been asking to meet me. i didn’t see any harm in that so i agreed. I must mention here that this ex and i broke up after only 4 months of being together because we both had different problems to deal with in life and knew this relationship would not survive. there was no hatred after the break up. So we finally met and the old feeling came rushing back. i had no idea how much i’d missed him till i saw him again. he agreed that he felt very nostalgic when he saw me after so long. i knew there was definitely something going on but it was only later on that he mentioned that he had a girlfriend. i was slightly upset and unreasonably jealous but didn’t say anything cos i knew he was happy with his new gf. When we left the place he gave me a long hug which i never wanted to end. and ever since ive not been able to stop thinking about him. knowing me i’d probably get bored and get over him once he declares his feelings for me (but also im not sure if id get over him, cos i feel strongly this time) and i do not want to ruin his current relationship that he seems happy to be in. I’ve decided that i would tell him that keeping in touch is not such a great idea and that we should stop talking. Cos i know not talking is the only shot i have of getting over him. Any suggestions please?

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verge offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 134 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (13 minutes after post)

“I’ve decided that i would tell him that keeping in touch is not such a great idea and that we should stop talking. Cos i know not talking is the only shot i have of getting over him.”

That seems like a good idea. You’ve found the answer to your problem, is there anything else you need help with?

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mintra offline Verified User (3 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (3 hours, 42 minutes after post)

Maybe the good thing about this is that it shows that you are more than just a challenge junkie.

What I mean is you enjoyed previous courtships, but in fact stopped because you had not found the right person.

SO keep enjoying the courtships until you do.

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